Re: What do I do with these threats?

Dear Troubled Mum, kindly quit the relationship as the man seems to be taking you for a ride realising that you are desperately in need of a man. I prefer that you either reconcile  with the father of your son or wait  for a responsible man  with not more than two kids who will devote  his time for you and has the means  to sustain the family, Debra A, Alakia, Ibadan, 08055631749.

Troubled Mum, my advice to you is to forget  the companion of yours and reconcile with your husband as you are yet to divorce. There is no real love between you and this new man. He is a 419er, Adeyemi, Sokoto, 08036312170.

Troubled Mum, my advice  for you is to call it a day because  what happened to you at the beginning will repeat itself. That the man is a ladies’ choice is a ruse, that old cargo does not have anything to offer apart from deceit and forced relevance. Jide Obokun Saki, 08081620399.

Troubled Mum, your fall now will be greater than your former fall. If a woman can leave her man after four children, you should know that he is a play boy. He will eventually break your heart, 08034859650.

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Troubled Mum, if all you said about your new man are true, that he is a divorcee, with four children, a ladies’ choice anytime and he is hiding/denying a relationship with another lady, which is a talk of the town, you better wake up. He is a play boy. Don’t burn your fingers twice, Bunmi, 08052640677.

Dear Troubled Mum, once beaten, twice shy. Shine your eyes this time. Goodluck, 08066738842.

Dear Troubled Mum, I am of the view that you are the only one who knows where the shoe is pinching you. No one can decide what to do for you. All you have to do is to weigh your options and see whether you can live with his excesses. If you can, it means you will have to close your eyes to the issue of the man being a ladies’ choice, Jane.

Dear Troubled Mum, if I were you, I will not be burdened by his denial of having another lady in his life. Falling in love with the opposite sex is not something that can be explained in words. Since you have told us that you have found fulfilment in him, then you have to persevere as you have said that you parted ways with your former husband four years ago due to the experience you have had with him. You have to seek redress legally so that you can move on. You should be appreciative of God having blessed you with a son. It is not compulsory you move in with this companion of yours if you don’t want to compound your problem. It is not unlikely that you might want to have children for him if he so desires, here is where you must make concerted efforts to make him to be more committed to the union. But I will caution you not to have more than the children you can afford to care for even without the man. It will be unfair of me to counsel you not to have a companion. Having a reasonable and responsible one is better than sleeping around with men.  Brace up for the initial hiccups, with time, the two of you will live to appreciate each other, Jaiye.

Dear Troubled Mum, I want to appreciate your forthrightness in opening up on your predicament. How many women in your shoes have ever had the gut or courage to come to the open to share their pains? You can be rest assured that this companion of yours has a place for you in his heart. You have to take it easy with him as he will at no distant time warm up to love your son and treat him as his own. For you to be on the same page and be appreciated the more, please you have to ignore the fact that he has another lady somewhere for keeps. He will one day change and get devoted and committed to you the more. But if you keep hammering on this, he will keep offending you and if care is not taken might just use and dump you in the end, Mabel.