As a graduate, how will you feel if your husband decides to pay you to be a housewife?

The issue of whether a female graduate should become a housewife and be financially supported by her husband is a topic that evokes diverse opinions. Some women prioritise their ambitions and careers, while others emphasise the importance of family and do not mind being a housewife as long as their husbands could support them financially. This prompted our discussion today. Below are the responses of our contributors:

Odion Christianah

My answer is a ‘No’. We would have talked this out before settling down. My dreams and goals are to become a big entrepreneur, an ambassador, and also help the needy. Quitting these dreams and becoming a full housewife would not allow me to achieve these aspirations. So, I cannot do that, or go into a marriage with such a person.

Samiat Hamzat

Despite being a graduate with two degrees and with a third one in the offing, I am a housewife. I had never thought I would be a housewife, but reality dawned on me and I had to reset my goals. In marriage, it is not always about one person, but about us − the family, its progress and union. If a graduate chooses to be a housewife and her husband agrees to financially support her, I think the decision should be respected.

Blessing Osawe

I would not feel so good about that. I have always been an independent person − being the first child of my parents, having five siblings to cater for. I always take up responsibilities all by myself. If I am being paid by my husband to be a housewife, I would feel constrained. I would love to support and share responsibilities with my partner.

Ameenah AbdulJelil

This would rather be a matter of mutual understanding between us. If he thinks the decision would be the best for our home, I would not have any problem with it. After all, I could also work from home and be productive as a housewife. Being a housewife is not a big deal or an abomination.

Mary Chukwuka

At first, I would feel bad. This is because I would not be able to practice (maybe it is my passion). I would take the offer if he agrees to pay the exact amount or maybe more of what I would have been earning if I were working. Thank God for technology − I could look for jobs I could do from home while I take care of the home.

Sandra Dada

I feel like it would not be bad because I am not someone who preaches the ‘independent lady’ thing. So, I would gladly accept the offer as long as I would be paid well and taken care of. Though staying at home or being a housewife could be boring sometimes, I could find something doing, like doing remote jobs.

Victoria Modupe

Looking at Nigeria’s economy and how it is difficult to get a good-paying job, most of the salaries people earn underrate their qualifications. But we have no choice − at least, man must survive. If my husband decides to pay me to be a full housewife, I would accept it. I am tired of suffering. With my kind of career, I could work from home and still fulfil my career dreams, though it would not be like practising it like I intended to. The only problem would be boredom. As time goes on, I would convince him to let me have my own business − which I would control from home, and just go check on my employees twice a week.

Zainab Abdulganiyy

I would feel bad. The reason is I have always dreamt of becoming a teacher − a trained and professional one − and I have invested so much in that dream just to see it come to pass. My husband’s decision would stifle this dream and it would be very difficult to steer my mind off a career I am passionate about. It would not be easy, but I would feel appreciated and valued by being compensated financially for my work and effort at home.

Adeola Azeezat

As a graduate and someone working in the medical field, I have a lot to contribute to my profession and society. I need to help people attain better health, which would not be easily achieved if I become a housewife. However, it is not a bad idea to be a housewife. It is a lot of work on its own. It has some advantages – you would have more time for personal development in all spheres of life.

Kanyinsola Amure

I would not allow that. As a woman, you would need your things. I prefer to fund myself and be independent. My husband would have to see things from my perspective.

Adaghe Deborah

Of course, yes. I would just be saving and when the money is huge I would open a clothing line and still be a full housewife.

Falaiye Ayomide Hannah

Open and honest communication between partners is required to understand each other’s expectations and passion. It is important for couples to have conversations about their goals, values, and shared commitments to find a mutually satisfactory arrangement. There are remote jobs that anyone could do from the comfort of their home and get paid. As stated earlier, every relationship should be based on honest communication. But I do not think I would appreciate being paid to be a full-time housewife because I would want a job that requires creative thinking, portraying my skills, and helping me become better in every facet of life.

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