Sometimes, we go through such intense emotional pain and misery that we simply want to crawl into a hole and be forgotten or to simply sleep and not wake up again so we can escape from the emotional pain and distress. This feeling becomes even more pronounced when it seems like there is no hope and the future appears bleak, and we believe that things will never get better. In such situations, suicidal thoughts may begin to emerge as a way out of the pain and misery. However, it is important to clarify that this perspective is very misleading and not based on factual evidence. The reality is that things do get better, and several individuals who have attempted suicide in the past but thankfully survived to tell their stories are glad they failed, as they have gone on to rediscover happiness again.
The key issue we want to address today is how to deal with these thoughts when they persistently intrude upon our minds, particularly when we are going through emotional pain. How can we cope with these suicidal thoughts? What can we do? And who can we turn to for help in such circumstances?
It is also important to dispel some common misconceptions. Having suicidal thoughts is not a reflection of weak faith in God or a character defect. It does not mean that you are crazy, weak, or flawed. It simply means that you are currently experiencing more emotional pain than you can cope with. However, with the passage of time and with good social and professional support, you can overcome your problems, and the emotional anguish and suicidal feelings will eventually subside. No matter how much pain you are experiencing right now, it is important to remember that you are not alone.
Why do I feel suicidal?
Many different kinds of emotional pain can lead to thoughts of suicide. The reasons for this pain are unique to each individual, and the ability to cope with the pain differs from person to person. We are all different and our experiences shape our emotional responses. However, there are some common causes that may lead us to experience suicidal thoughts and feelings. The most common of these is depression—a medical diagnosis characterised by overwhelming feelings of sadness, fatigue and loss of interest in previously enjoyable activities. Simple tasks like getting out of bed, taking a bath, or answering a phone call can become incredibly daunting and may seem like too much trouble. The good news is that depression is a treatable condition and full recovery is possible with the right support.
How can I help myself when I have suicidal thoughts?
We have previously discussed how to offer support to individuals with suicidal thoughts. Today, we will focus on what you can do for yourself if you are experiencing these thoughts.
- Avoid taking impulsive actions: The intense emotional pain that you are experiencing can distort your thinking and make it harder for you to see possible solutions to your problems. Give yourself some time to think and delay any sudden actions.
- Seek immediate help: Do not keep the suicidal feelings to yourself. Find someone you trust and share your thoughts and feelings with them. If you are unable to think of solutions other than suicide, it is not because other solutions do not exist, but rather because you are currently unable to see them. Mental health professionals, friends, or loved ones can help you to see alternatives that may not be apparent to you. Give them a chance to assist you.
- Avoid drugs and alcohol: These substances tend to cloud your judgment and concentration, making it more difficult to think clearly and rationally.
- Create a safe environment: Make your home safe by removing any objects that could potentially be used for self-harm.
- Learn coping strategies: With the help of a professional, you can learn coping strategies that are tailored to your specific needs and circumstances.
- Identify your triggers: Be aware of the situations, events, or thoughts that trigger your suicidal thoughts. By understanding and addressing these triggers, you can begin to work through them and develop healthier coping mechanisms.
Remember:
– Suicidal thoughts can occur to anyone, but it is important to remember that you don’t have to act on them.
– Taking one’s own life does not end the suffering and pain. Instead, it transfers the emotional pain, grief, and anguish to your loved ones—your family, siblings, friends, and colleagues.
– Suicidal attempts may leave you injured, in even more pain and distress than you were experiencing originally, causing further misery and regret.
– Give it time. What if things change for the better tomorrow, next week, or next month?
No matter what your situation is, there are people who need you, places where you can make a difference, and experiences that can remind you that life is worth a living. It takes real courage to face death and step back from the brink. You can use that courage to learn coping skills for overcoming depression and finding the strength to keep going.
For professional psychological first aid in Nigeria, you can reach out to any of the following helplines:
– Suicide Research and Prevention Initiative (SURPIN): Hotlines: 09080217555, 09034400009, 08111909909, and 07013811143.
– Asido Foundation Helpline: 09028080416.
– Lagos suicide hotlines (by the Lagos State Government): Hotlines: 08058820777 and 09030000741.
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