Dear Yemisi,
I really need your assistance.
I am 28 years old and my sex life is nothing to write about. I don’t last more than one minute in bed with my partner.
What can I do to enhance my performance and to last long in bed?
Worried man, 0***8***9*.
Dear Worried Man,
I have written several times on this issue of premature ejaculation that might be occasioned by anxiety, fear and immaturity in handling sexual issues.
It is of essence to know if you are even having sexual interaction with a woman that you should be having it with in the first instance. Having a lasting and pleasurable sexual interaction with a partner is of the mind and something you must not be too artificial about. What is meant by this wanting to put into practice what you have read about in sex -related books or what you might have heard from your friends by way of sharing their experiences with their partners.
It is always said or held that one man’s meat is another man’s poison. How relaxed you are at every trial means a lot and this determines how pleasurable the exercise will be.
If the experience of one-minute is with just a bed mate of yours and not your wife or wife to be, it is high time you reviewed your lifestyle and resolve to stay put with your wife who will in turn find means of helping you out in prolonging intercourse as long as having sex goes far beyond procreation.
If the exercise is solely for producing children, then nobody will be so worried about the period ejaculation takes place. But having a wife or partner is meant for having him/her exclusively to yourself for the union to be well grounded.
I will counsel you with this amended piece of what I wrote two weeks ago on similar issue.
Naturally, I will say that what you are experiencing is nothing new as researches have shown that three quarters of men usually ejaculate within two minutes which is always more of concern to men and that which is too speedy for the average woman to be able to have an orgasm.
Now that you have identified this, you need the support of your lover in overcoming this problem though it is said that an average time for real act is between three and seven minutes.
It is suggested among other reasons that changing of sex partners too soon might be a source of your worries. Then, it behoves on you to check your habit of changing your bed mates.
Dating a new partner will demand patience from your end because in an attempt to prove to her that you are active might result in premature ejaculation.
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Changing sex partners will no doubt expose you to series of sexually transmitted diseases and majorly HIV/AIDS. Hence, you need to be thread carefully in this respect.
Sex experts have recommended that if you are desirous of lasting for as long as want, you must not be in a rush, but re-order your activities that normally accompany your love making session. For instance, if you have been having foreplay, you will have to device other means of giving yourself maximum satisfaction before the real act. You can directly go into the act and later have foreplay.
It is even suggested by experts that you masturbate an hour or two before the show as this has been found to delay coming quickly.
Variety of positions is very critical to your satisfaction in bed. Try something new and out of the ordinary as long as you are having sex with your legal partner. Vary your style and never be fretful.
It will interest you again that going for hard condoms will not only protect your partner and you, but dull sensations that trigger releasing before expected time.
Working on your real self the more by believing that you are not alone in this will make you come to a point that sexual intercourse is meant to be enjoyed and not endured. Try physical exercises by consulting health educators on the kind of exercises that you can take to.
I don’t know of any sex-enhancing drug that you can use that will not later in life affect your performance and total well being.
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