The mindset for s3x in marriage

I have always believed in the saying that s3x is a thing of the mind. When the mind is not tuned towards s3x, it becomes a mirage and a burden trying to have s3x, not to talk of enjoying s3x in marriage. Many times, when s3xual fulfilment is not achieved, or the beauty of s3x, which is embedded in the mutual enjoyment of the couple, is missing, the factor of the mind, may be responsible. The mind plays a unique role in s3xual response or enjoyment. So a couple that will enjoy great s3x in their marriage must work on their mind to ensure that they get into the s3x mood frequently.

A wife once complained to me that her husband was regularly turning down her s3xual advances. And, when I said regularly, I mean just that in the straightway. He was always complaining about being tired. Now, you and I know that there is more than one reason for a man to behave in this manner. The easiest thought that could come readily to one’s mind is that the husband may be having an affair. So, having had enough outside, he becomes useless s3xually when he gets home.

But, I came to discover through this case that the problem with that husband was the issue of the mind. He just started building a new business and was driving himself hard to ensure that the business succeeded. So, s3x was the last thing on his mind each night as he retired to bed. Even when the wife dressed provocatively for his s3xual attention, he was never moved to the point of giving her a great s3x treatment. The best he could give at such a moment was a little of “rise and sink” satisfaction to the wife. His mind was not tuned in that direction.

A few days ago, I was engaged in a conversation with a woman on this issue, and she responded that when the mind is not in it, the body will hardly respond. So, the place of the mind in getting a couple into the s3x mood cannot be underestimated. Every couple who desires a great s3x marriage must work on their mind to become responsive to s3x. When this is achieved, then great s3x marriage becomes a reality. This is even more necessary for the wife. To get a man into the s3x mood is a little easier with the man than the woman. This is because a man can be aroused by beholding the physical sight of a woman, or her naked body. But it takes more than the physical sight of a man for a woman’s mind to be tuned for s3x.

Putting the mind in the mood for s3x requires both husband and wife to work at giving each other peace of mind. This is where the issue of intimate relationships comes into play. A couple that will enjoy a great level of peace of mind must be intimately connected. You cannot be quarrelling always and enjoy a great s3x life in your marriage. A man may even be able to do that because of his body make-up. For a woman, it’s going to be a herculean task to achieve. It is like taking a fish out of the water and putting it on the bare ground to swim. 

When a woman is not happy, the mind is not tuned for sex at all, not to talk of great s3x. This is why men are the ones who complain more about the s3xual response of their wives. The truth is that many wives are not happily married. They feel battered and unfulfilled for so many reasons.

Like one woman asked recently, why is this world like a man’s world: he calls the shot everywhere they go; he is not the one who changes his name at the altar; he determines the company his wife can keep; he is the one who physically batters the wife because of his physique; he rules like the lord over her. The situation becomes worse these days when the wife is also expected to jointly finance the home. And many wives even take the lion’s share of the budget nowadays. Can a wife in such a situation be happy? Can she enjoy a great s3x life in the marriage?

It is also a fact that the economic recession affects the mindset for s3x. Couples think less of s3x and more of survival. As a man stated recently with the many bills to pay, s3x is the last thing on many husbands’ minds.

Every couple also need to make sure that their conflict resolution mechanism is kept functioning regularly. Conflict at the home front may not be eliminated but should be drastically reduced. Through tolerance and cooperation, we can minimize the conflict points in the marriage setting. After all, we did not get married with the mind of fighting each other. Love brought us together, and the same love should keep us together. Do I hear you say did love bring us together? The truth is that love is what should bring us together for marriage. Anything short of this will never make for peace in the marriage. Without love, tolerance is unachievable because love bears all things, and endures all things. And when it is mutual, conflict resolution is made easy.

So if we need more great s3x in our marriages, then let us work at keeping our minds in the right mood. The right atmosphere for peace of mind should be created by each couple to ensure that the right mood for s3x is maintained.

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