I love a guy who attends the same church with me. We have never spoken to each other. I know it is not right for me to make the first move, but I love him.
Please, help me.
Loveth, 08146969198.
Dear Loveth,
You are not likely to be the first woman to have such a feeling for a man.
If you ask me, it appears absurd in this environment of ours for you to make the first move while others will even say that it is unAfrican to do such.
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All I will advise you do is to keep this feeling of yours under cover for now. Who knows whether the fellow is equally having the same feeling towards you. Being members of the same church is not a guarantee that the two of you are bound to be lovers.
I hope what you are experiencing is not lust or fantasy. It is not a sin to fall in love with a member of the opposite sex, but it is better if the first move is made by the man.
You claimed in your letter that you have never spoken to each other talk less of expressing your mutual feelings towards each other.
For you not to be caught in the web of a one way affair, it will be in your interest to first establish friendship with each other before all other considerations mature and grow. By the time you get interested in what goes on in each other’s life, it will be an open issue whether to advance in your friendship to the next level of becoming lovers. It is at this stage that you will be able to get some hidden facts about each other. It is not enough to assume that every guy in your church comes to church with good intentions and vice versa.
I will enjoin you to commit what you are about venturing into unto God’s hand for guidance. You don’t have to make yourself too cheap for this fellow. You will only be addressed the way you are dressed.
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