The world today is a global village. There are tenets that will always remain the same – of love, relationships, and friendship. This has given rise to the culture of long-distance relationships. This form of relationship occurs where the partners live a far distance apart geographically. This recognisably puts a strain on the relationship and the partners must go the extra length to keep the relationship regardless of the location difference.
Seeing all that is associated with this form of relationship, this week’s conversation is around the ingredients necessary to make a long-distance relationship succeed. Here are the responses we got:
In my opinion, long-distance relationships can only work out with constant communication (calls, video calls more too) and both parties visit each other once in a while (sacrifice). Trust inclusive, more expressive with their emotions (this still boils down to proper communication). Having to communicate about your day-to-day activities, because the moment they stop communicating or one party gets too busy, that relationship is most likely going to be in trouble. Make your expectations clear enough, fight for intimacy (this part wouldn’t be that easy though but if you want it to work it would).
Try to communicate regularly, and creatively. Greet each other “good morning” and “good night” every day — this is a must. On top of that, try to update your partner on your life and its happenings, however mundane some of the things may seem. To up the game, send each other pictures, audio clips, and short videos from time to time. By putting in this kind of effort, you make the other person feel loved and attended to. Stay honest with each other too. Talk about your feelings of fear, insecurity, jealousy, apathy, whatsoever. If you try to hide anything from your partner, that secret will sooner or later swallow you up from inside out. Don’t try to deal with things all by yourself. Be open and honest with each other. Let your partner help you and give you the support you need. It’s better to look at the problem during its initial stage than to only disclose it when it’s too late.
Well, with trust. That’s the foundation of any long-distance relationship (or any relationship). Also, the partners should possess great communication skills,not hey and how are you kind of communication. They must be skilled in the art of making theirrelationship exciting and interesting.
I think I’ll go with the word commitment. Long-distance relationship is a lot to take on that sometimes, I wonder what their essence is. Like why sit on the phone talking to your partner for three hours a day when you could just get into your car, drive the next ten minutes and you are with the love of your life talking and gisting. But, that’s why I’d say you’ll need to be committed. Being dedicated to and being serious about the one same person is the key. Having it in mind that it’s him/her and nobody else is what helps a long-distance relationship work well.
Some days will be hard and frustrating but, finding those qualities in your partner that assures you that ‘it’s them’, gives you a reason to stay put.
So, in my opinion, a long-distance relationship isn’t for the faint-hearted. You need to be 150% sure you can handle it. A long-distance relationship needs calmness, trust, dedication and utmost understanding. If you are not ready for it, you shouldn’t get into it because this thing can get uncomfortable. So if you can’t commit, don’t even bother. Just move!
Long-distance relationships today are just like any other form of relationship. You need to love who you are with. If you don’t love and appreciate your other half, there are no tools, no technological gadget that can help you out. This is the reality. Once you are sure you love your partner, you can begin to think of occasional video calls, virtual conversations, and other virtual bonding activities. All these can significantly increase the chances of your long-distance relationship surviving.
The first step to improving your chances of success with a long-distance relationship is singular focus. If you cannot be singularly focused, if you are not focused, you will easily get distracted by the people you see around you. If you can be focused, you are halfway there.
Next week, we are dealing with a scenario that pits a romantic relationship against friendship. “I have been dating for a couple of weeks, not to be a snub, I make plans for my partner to meet my best friend. After lunch and a good time, my friend called and explained that she does not like my partner at all. I am at sea and I do not know what to do. Who do I stick to? To be part of the next edition, send your response to 08133601345 on WhatsApp.
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