I am a 21-year-old lady from Ondo State, but based in Lagos. I am a fashion apprentice.
I have been into a relationship with a guy since last year April. I found out that this same guy has impregnated a girl although they have been together before we met. I told him that I cannot go further in the relationship, but he told me he really loves me.
When my parents and siblings discovered our intimacy, they said that I cannot date talk less of marrying a married man, but I was already in love with him and he loves me too.
Later on, because of friends, parents, siblings and other people’s counsel, I accepted to date another guy who I wholeheartedly love. Categorically, I am deeply in love with this new guy who I met in March this year because he loves me too.
When the first guy found out, he told me he was going to get me an apartment after finishing my apprenticeship as a fashion designer. When the new guy found out that I had someone before him, he said he cannot leave me for him.
I don’t want to be a second wife as much as I would not want to share my husband because I am the jealous type. When I told the first guy that I cannot settle for a married man, he told me he loves me because I am a ‘church type’ and that he loves me more than the mother of his son.
Though the first guy and I have planned a lot of things for our future until I fell in love with another person because I don’t want what will implicate me in future. An adage says the devil you know is better than the angel you just met.
It is worthy of mention that this first guy denies me before people that there is nothing between us and I do the same. He has never introduced me to any of his family members. I only know his little sister who does not know who I am to her brother. There was even a time his wife invited me to her shop to ask if I was really in relationship with her husband. I denied it. She respected me a lot, but when she found out that I was dating her husband, she hated me the more. But this first guy insists that she is not really his choice, but I.
Please, I am confused. I don’t know how to sort myself out. I need your advice.
Who should I choose among the two?
Emi, 08*8******5.
Dear Readers, what do you suggest is the way out for Emi? She is in a fix on who to choose among the two men in her life due to commitment she has made. Send your intervention to 08055001741 or yemiaofolaju@yahoo.com.
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