The fear that he will lose his erection
For a man to be able to sexually satisfy his wife, he needs a rigid penis. When the penis is limp, orgasm becomes impossible. Limp penis is the most common form of impotence in men. And every man seems to know or have heard of this happening to some well-meaning men sometimes ago, and secretly in his heart, he dreads this happening to him. The fear of his losing his ability to take his wife to the pinnacle of sexual intercourse she is used to is something he cannot dare to imagine. And if by chance this happens to him at a time, it seems to him that the ultimate has happened. That which he fears has come upon him. The next time he wants to have sex with his wife, he becomes so anxious and sincerely wishes that this time around, he will be himself, but most of the time, his experience does not defer from the previous not because the eventual as happened as he fears but because he is anxious.
The fear of not being able to ejaculate
Before any man experiences ejaculatory malfunction, he never thinks this can happen to him. He thinks perfect of himself. But if one day, while trying to make love to his wife, it eventually happens that he suddenly finds himself not being able to ejaculate, he becomes so devastating that the recurring fear may create a neurosis that can render a perfectly healthy man impotent. Men need to know that like limp penis, that it happened to you once does not mean it will always happen, but it always reoccurs because of the fear. The fear of “This is it, I think the eventuality has finally happened. I think I am going impotent” makes it to happen again and again. Every time he thinks of making love to his wife, he thinks “what if it happens again” and when it happens again, it is like “I knew it. I am impotent.”
Fear is crippling and it has the capacity to kill all the sexual excitement in a marriage. That is why every woman must help her husband to eliminate every form of fear so as to ensure a long lasting sexual fulfillment in their home. Therefore, every man suffering from any type of impotence must search if he is nursing any kind of fear so as to ensure this is not the root cause.
Retarded Ejaculation is the opposite of Premature Ejaculation. It is a situation in which a man does not have problem maintaining rigid penis but cannot proceed to ejaculation. Though this is a rare situation but some men actually suffer it. Because it is unlike Premature Ejaculation that is very common, many men suffering it just suffer in silence. It is a situation that can be frustrating to both husband and wife in that the man is not able to achieve orgasm in intercourse, and therefore, he cannot relieve his tension by ejaculation even after an hour or two of intercourse. Such a man becomes overworked and leaves his wife worn out, and you can be sure she wouldn’t be looking forward to another time with him.
It has been discovered that when a man reaches his sixties or seventies, he may not ejaculate every time during intercourse, but medical doctors have said this is normal. It should not call for alarm. In this case, it is important that every elderly couple have this understanding and learn to enjoy each other during intercourse without feeling any pressure to force an orgasm every time.
When younger couples experience this problem, it is necessary they seek for solution. However, it is important to note that no mechanical device or technique will cure the man suffering this problem. This is because it is more of a psychological problem than anything else. It is a problem caused by the mind and therefore must be cured in the mind. Psychologists have suggested that the problem is created by subconscious resistance to giving his sperm to his wife. This, it has been said, can be a form of selfishness and can be an indication.
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