Dealing with a cheating partner can be annoying and nerve-wracking. One minute, you’re both cool and have a relationship worth fighting for; the next, they have some shady business going on.
When you can ascertain that your partner is being unfaithful, what do you do? Pay them back in their coin? Lose your temper and do something out of line? Which one?
Anyway, these options could be better ones. Let’s see ways that you can handle the situation.
1. Verify if it’s true or false
The primary way to achieve this might be to choose to have an honest and firm conversation with your partner before making assumptions.
This aims to get them to speak the truth and get to the root of the matter. So, try talking things through with them.
2. Withdraw a little
To deal with a cheating partner, you might need to take a step back and demand space from them. Cheating is wrong regardless of the gender that’s involved. So, when facing this situation, take time to decide what you truly want and process things.
Being quiet is essential so you don’t act irrationally or impulsively.
3. Protect your space
Taking a step back to process things might become irrelevant in the absence of boundaries; protecting your space is equally important.
Also, if you decide to stay with your partner after what has happened, you need to establish new or strict rules because your trust was once taken for granted, and you’ve been hurt in the process.
So, you need those boundaries to prevent that from happening again.
4. Get help
Dealing with a partner who cheats never leaves you or your relationship the same. So, don’t think you can pull through this alone. Seek help, get all the support that you need – therapy, talk to people whose guidance you can trust. This might help you know the way forward. It could also guide your decision to forgive.
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5. Forgive
Forgiving a partner who cheats does not downplay the fact that you are hurt; instead, it acknowledges your desire to be free from what the hurt can do to you.
It’s difficult to forgive whether they feel remorse or not; however, it’s essential for you and maybe for them.
6. Heal
You can’t truly heal if you don’t pay attention to yourself. Take time to recover from the big blow and let off steam. Trauma is real, and you must be careful to avoid being controlled by it.
7. Walk away
Don’t stay against your will, especially if you’re unconvinced, because things could spiral into something unhealthy. That’s why the need to evaluate the situation and seek help is important.
Is he/she a serial cheat? Do they feel remorse? How are you taking it – are you deflecting or being honest with yourself?
Walk away if it becomes a pattern you’ve had to deal with over time and, more importantly if you believe trust cannot be rebuilt.
Conclusively, the choice is yours to make at the end of the day. It’s more beneficial to handle the situation intentionally than to do things irrationally. Cheating in a relationship should not be encouraged.
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