FOR some, yesterday was magical, the first Valentine’s with someone special, a day filled with love, surprises, and beautiful memories. For others, it was just another day, nothing special, nothing different. And then, there are those who spent the night in tears, dealing with disappointment, rejection, or heartbreak. Love was in the air, but not everyone got to breathe it the same way.
Wherever you fall on this spectrum, one thing is certain, your worth is not defined by a single day. Love is beautiful, and when it finds you, it should be cherished. But love, in its true form, isn’t just about February 14th, and it certainly isn’t limited to romance.
If yesterday was hard for you, take a deep breath. Heartbreak is painful, but it doesn’t mean you are unworthy of love. It means that something or someone wasn’t meant for you, and while it stings, it also opens the door for something better.
Moving on isn’t just about “getting over it.” It’s about healing, learning, and growing. Allow yourself to grieve if needed, but don’t let heartbreak make you forget your own value. Talk to someone you trust, write down your feelings, and remind yourself that love isn’t gone, it just hasn’t found its way back to you yet.
If yesterday was a wonderful day for you, then cherish that joy. Love is meant to be celebrated. But let’s also extend kindness to those around us who may not have had the same experience.
Last week, we talked about how being single on Valentine’s Day isn’t a tragedy but an opportunity to practice self-love. But let’s be honest, self-love is easier said than done. It’s not just about spa days, buying yourself gifts, or saying “I love myself” in the mirror. True self-love is a practice, a mindset, and a commitment to valuing yourself, no matter what season of life you’re in. But what happens on the days when you don’t feel lovable? On the days when self-doubt creeps in, when mistakes feel heavier than wins, when loneliness whispers that maybe something is wrong with you? That’s when self-love matters the most, when you choose to be kind to yourself, even when it’s hard.
It starts with how you talk to yourself. Many of us have an inner voice that’s harsher than we’d ever be to a friend. Pay attention to how you speak to yourself. Instead of saying, “I’m not good enough,” try, “I am doing my best, and that’s enough.” Instead of “I always mess things up,” say, “I learn and grow from every experience.” Your words shape your self-perception. Choose them wisely.
Self-love isn’t just about how you treat yourself; it’s also about what you allow from others. If certain people, places, or situations drain your energy, it’s okay to say no. Protecting your mental well-being is not selfish; it’s necessary. Whether it’s declining an event that makes you uncomfortable or distancing yourself from toxic relationships, setting boundaries is a form of self-respect.
And sometimes, that’s the hardest part. We’re often taught to be accommodating, to avoid conflict, to keep the peace even at our own expense. But self-love also means standing up for yourself when necessary. Interpersonal effectiveness is a key part of this, it’s about learning to communicate clearly, set boundaries, and maintain healthy relationships. It teaches assertiveness, expressing your needs and setting limits without aggression. Sometimes, standing up for yourself isn’t just beneficial; it’s essential for your well-being.
Many of us only celebrate big achievements, graduations, promotions, major milestones. But what about the small victories? Getting out of bed on a tough day, finishing a task, drinking enough water, these matter too. Self-love grows when you acknowledge and appreciate your efforts, no matter how small they seem.
When was the last time you did something purely for your own happiness? Not for work, not for social media, not because you should, but because it brings you joy? Whether it’s dancing, listening to music you love, painting, taking a long walk, or watching your favorite movie, doing what makes you happy is an act of self-care. You don’t need permission to enjoy life.
Social media can make it feel like everyone else has perfect relationships, perfect careers, perfect bodies. But remember, people only show what they want you to see. Their highlight reel is not the full story. Focus on your own journey. You are not behind. You are not less than. You are enough, exactly as you are.
Self-love means taking care of yourself, mind and body. Get enough sleep, eat well, exercise, and most importantly, check in on your mental health. Seek therapy if needed, and don’t be afraid to ask for help when required. Loving yourself means making choices that support your overall well-being.
We all have regrets, mistakes, and moments we wish we could erase. But holding onto them only weighs you down. Self-love means understanding that you are a work in progress. Learn from the past, but don’t let it define you. You deserve to move forward with grace and self-compassion.
Self-love is not a destination; it’s a daily practice. It’s choosing, over and over again, to treat yourself with kindness, patience, and respect. Whether or not you had a “picture-perfect” Valentine’s Day doesn’t matter. What matters is how you love yourself every single day.
So, this week, take a moment to reflect, what’s one small thing you can do today to show yourself love? Start there, because you deserve it.
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