WHAT should be done by a man to make his wife reach the point of seizing every opportunity to have sex with him is to speak her sex language. Before I share the “how” secret with you, let me point out one major mistake that men always make. This is not approaching sex from the woman’s angle. That is, they don’t speak the sex language of a woman, which is completely at variance with that of a man.
What most men do when they want sex from their wives is to communicate their desire for sex either verbally by saying, Can I have sex with you now? or better still, Can we have sex? Or they may action their sex desire by physically grabbing her breasts or bum. What is wrong with this sex language, you may want to ask? This approach does not flow with the sex language of a woman, and that is why your wife may not be eager to have sex with you, in spite of the fact that, it is the proper, exciting, and enjoyable thing to do. Speaking the sex language of a woman involves the following process:
The Warming up Process: Every woman has a natural desire for sex, which lies low within her unless it is aroused through the process of warming up, as in the case of a car before driving off in it. If this process of warming up of your wife is jumped when it comes to sex, she feels abused, and as such becomes unwilling to have sex with you the next time. That is why she feigns body pains, headaches, stomach upset to say the least.
When this is the case, her Oliver Twist will definitely not ask for more since Oliver Twist only asked for more because, he enjoyed the first one he got. So, for a woman to become eager for sex with her husband, he must constantly take her through the process of warming up to turn her on for great, exciting sexual experience. If in doubt, try driving off in your car without first warming it, and let me know the reaction you get from the car, compared to when it passes through the warm up process.
The Cooking Process: Another way of explaining the sex language of a woman is to metaphorically see it in the light of the process of cooking food. This process, as explained by JACK GRAVE, the sex guru, is one which everyone who is hungry goes through for the food to be ready, of course, except you want to eat raw food, which is unimaginable. According to JACK GRAVE, most guys, especially those in longer-term relationships, miss out this point. They want sex so they expect it IMMEDIATELY. And if they don’t get it, they blame their partner. But doing this is just plain dumb.
What Jack is saying here is that when a man wants to have sex IMMEDIATELY with a woman outside her sex language of warming her up to turn her on, it is like wanting to eat uncooked meal because one is hungry. But we all know that to do this is simply stupid. And this is exactly how stupid it is to want to sleep with your wife when she is not turned on.
Now the point here is this, if you want to eat, you’ve got to be patient and wait for it to be cooked first. Everyone wholeheartedly accept this food cooking process as necessary in order to have a good meal. But when it comes to sex, most men don’t accept that this cooking process is necessary. They get frustrated or out rightly ignore the fact that they have to spend a little time warming their wives up first before they will eagerly want sex.
It is this warming up process that most men don’t want to appreciate. Thus, they keep complaining about the fact that their wives don’t like sex, or are eager for sex. When the cooking process or warming up process is absent, the food is not good for eating. Thus sex becomes unattractive to a wife, making her to play hide and seek, while the husband keeps wondering if he married the wrong woman.
How can you warm up your wife for sex before the real act?
The process of getting your wife warmed up involves working on her emotions. Almost all women are highly emotional, and respond almost according to their emotional work up. To get a woman to do unimaginable things becomes easier when her emotional buttons are touched. She will be grinning from ear to ear as if that is all about life.
A man who consistently batters his wife’s emotions should not expect her to be turned on to have sex with him. A woman under constant harassment from her husband does not naturally want to have sex with him. Rather, she wants to keep to herself, and if need be, get a shoulder to cry upon elsewhere. So, you need to examine how you talk to your woman, how you respond to her requests, how she is presented before your colleagues, friends and family members. Do you put her down and make her feel worthless? Or you celebrate her when you are in company with others. Do you leave home in the morning without caring a bit what her day is like until you return home in the night, ready for two things usually, food and sex? Do you carry with you in the car or on your table in the office, or in your wallet, something that she is aware reminds you of her all day? Do you verbalize your love for her, or you assume she ought to know that you really love and care for her? Do you look at her after dressing up for an occasion and tell her how beautiful she is?
Things like these go a long way in affecting the emotional aspect of a woman. So, if you want to start getting more sex from your wife, start to do what is necessary to speak her sex language – turning your lover on and stimulating her emotionally. Not only that, start enjoying the process of doing these – giving her massage, sending her messages during the day, finding new romantic songs you can have sex with. Do this and you will soon have more passion and sex in your marriage than you ever thought would have been possible.
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