Play funny, silly games
Engaging yourselves in games such as ‘Hide and Seek’, Whoever finishes a piece of meat first takes one more’ etc, sets you in the mood for real sex actions. I remember a couple within my area one day as I entered their living room, I met, the husband complaining about his wife disturbing his peace, not allowing him to rest by running her finger tip through his foot repeatedly. Of course, the wife was only trying to put him in the mood, but he was not quick to decode it. Trust me, I simply chipped in my tip, and left the scene immediately. No wonder the husband never forgot to thank me days afterwards.
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The game is all about teasing each other to the point of sexual provocation. It draws couples intimately close to each other. Life should not be too serious. Like my wife’s younger sister will jokingly say “You better learn to relax so that you will not collapse.” A person, who does nothing to relax, will definitely collapse one day. It is a matter of time.
Psychiatrist and sex therapist, Barbara Bartlik, M.D., explains why silly games lead to crazy sex: “Bringing an item into the bedroom, like a board game, forces you to think about how you’re going to use this item to make the experience different. Whoever dreamed up the idea feels triumphant, while the other person feels well attended to. These positive experiences feed our relationships and make love last.” Whether it’s Scrabble or Battleship doesn’t really matter. “The best thing is, it takes the guesswork out of communication,” says Jon. “It gives us structure, and it’s fun to have a built-in forum to ask for what we want sexually.”
Schedule Special Sex Moment
Better sex will lead to more sex, says Dr. Bartlik. So forget the quickies, and love each other longtime. Schedule an appointment that neither of you is allowed to cancel: Lie in bed Saturday morning, Sunday evenings is a good example. You might just chat, or touch each other from head to toes, savouring your bodies together under the sheets. This helps your connectivity level.
You will find this scheduled moment quite helpful if your daily schedule does not allow for sexual activity during the week, or if parental responsibilities are fast eroding into your sex life. A wife has this to say about their sex life, “When we first met, we had sex every day,”. “But we’re parents now and don’t have as much time. Now it’s just once a week. But with an hour or two of sexual activity at the weekends, it’s always amazing and meaningful.”
Plan an Excursion
When sexual fire has gone down, vacation or excursion can be a perfect way to rekindle the fire. For Lesley and Tim, sex isn’t just part of a vacation: It’s the very reason for the getaway. So, vacations afford couples the many opportunities to have sex. Talking about vacation, an average Nigerian thinks vacation is all about travelling out and when they can’t afford it, they just erase it completely from their system but it is not until you travel out of the country that you can take a vacation. You can take a vacation to a friend who lives in a quieter place than yours where you know you won’t be disturbed. It can even be to such a place like your village. Not thinking of workload or home work or house chores. Attention is focused on each other all the time. So, it is enjoyment unlimited.
You don’t have to fly to a far-flung land to take your sexual satisfaction to new altitudes. “Surprise your partner on a random Monday or Tuesday,” suggests Megan Andelloux, director of the Miko Learning and Resource Center, in Providence, Rhode Island. “At dusk, blindfold her and lead her to the car. As you drive to a remote location, her excitement will build. When you arrive, take off her blindfold and spend lots of time making out in your car before relocating to your predetermined love nest. Even if you end up just one or two kilometres from home, the sex adventure will be worthwhile.
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