Fear: A major cause of poor erection (1)

MALE impotency seems to be on the increase today.  A doctor once commented that hardly will a day pass by without some men coming into his consultancy room to say “Doctor, I’m afraid I am becoming impotent.” The truth is, though every man tends to put up a bravado attitude and projects a “sexually all wise” image, he is regularly plagued with some sort of fears. And these fears are responsible for the many impotent cases we see in men today. Every man must conquer these fears if he will be sexually fulfilled, and probably get over any form of impotence he may be suffering. In order to help our men, it becomes imperative to look into this situation. These fears are discussed as follows:

The fear of rejection

Many men suffer fear of rejection from their wives because of their temperament and probably because of their past responses to their sexual advances. Such men often approach their wives with a deep-rooted fear that they may be rejected. When a woman has a genuine reason for having to turn down her husband’s sexual advance, it is important she does it in a way that will convince him that she truly has a genuine reason to do so, and that she is neither doing it as a rejection of his person nor because she does not find him sexually attractive. This is because men are very sensitive to their wives’ opinion of them, and often, they read their wives’ NO to their sexual advances as meaning they do not find them sexually stimulating. And truly, nothing is more worrisome and discouraging to a man than this. Every woman needs to know that a man cannot accept being considered sexually unattractive by his wife. Nothing hurts his ego more than this. This rejection often makes husbands to keep off their wives for weeks. And even when they get the courage to come, it puts them under unnecessary pressure.

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The fear of being compared to other men

Some men are also tormented by the fear of having their wives compare them to some other man/men. This fear is often suffered by men who got married to women who have known other man or men before them. And you will agree with me that this is rather the norm than the exception. Many of these men often nurse the fear of their wives comparing them with the man/men in their past, and probably finding them less satisfying. Every woman in this kind of situation must avoid the temptation to compare her husband with some man/men she once knew. No two men are the same. Every man is unique.

However, men in this situation should never concern themselves with their wives’ past relationships. A man sometime ago, kept asking his wife what she felt about his lovemaking ability as compared to her late husband, and he became devastated when she told him she found her late husband more sexually satisfying than he was. This confession almost broke their union. They had to end up in a counseling room before the marriage could be savaged.

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