I am a 45-year old man. I have been working as a pastoral assistant to a man of God. I met my wife through a text she sent to my General Overseer’s wife in July, 2007 after her former fiance ‘disappear’ few days to their introduction. I expressed my desire to marry her by May, 2008.
During our short courtship, I saw some strange things and many pastor-friends told me I should take her for deliverance, but I thought it was not necessary. Her father told me that they were told after her birth that she should not have a ‘noisy wedding’. Again, I did not ‘dig deep’ to get the details.
A week to our wedding in March 2009, my General Overseer told me that we shall have a ‘big fight’ after the marriage, but if I can endure it all, we shall overcome-if I had known that ‘the big fight’ is what I am experiencing now, I would have also cancelled the wedding then.
She is the first child of her parents, she is three years older than I, she keeps many divorcees as friends, she is from Ekiti State while I am from Kwara State. We did not really have any honeymoon due to her banking job. By nature, she is gentle and a great giver. She conceived after six months of our wedding and we have a baby boy. It was after his birth that things changed in the home-constant quarrels.
Her mother and sister started causing trouble for us by demanding from us what we are not even enjoying. I lost my job and every effort to get another one became a mirage, whereas I easily get jobs for other people.
The last quarrel was when my wife brought the younger brother of her ex to the house on the pretence that she wanted to get him a job. I over reacted and she uttered some dangerous words to me.
Thereafter, she lost two pregnancies, we were advised to relocate to a far city, but she remained adamant. I had to run from the house when she wanted to hit my head with a stool out of anger in January. I am now squatting.
The day I made up my mind to end it all at the 3rd Mainland Bridge was on July 22, 2018. As I was about ending it all, a drunkard saw me as I was trekking from Ketu /Ojota end (before I got to the bridge), he asked why do I want to kill myself when I have not achieved my life goal. I need a job, a house and ‘final solution’ to my marital crisis. My pastor friends said my wife has spirit husband and that I need to apologise to her; but she remains adamant,
Dear Yemisi, kindly, help me ask your readers for advice. I am ready to end it all if I cannot get solution by October ending.
Olufunso Afolabi,
Ikorodu, Lagos State.
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