Should gender roles exist among couples?

Both sexes, these days, work to provide for the home front which overtime, was specific to the man hence giving the excuse out of house chores. But in most cases now, both gender work and earn. Should the woman still be in charge of the home front alone; Cooking , dressing the kids, cleaning, buying groceries and all other chores?

 

Both should be involved. The husband should be able to help out in any little way he can. That’s why they are called helpmates.

It’s still comes down to understanding in the marriage. They have to both work together, think alike and see things alike if not it won’t work.

The home front should not be left alone to the woman, she can be in charge but not to be left alone in it. A little help is needed to appreciate her.

Titi Oyesanya

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If we like it or not, gender roles still exist, forget feminism. In this our part of the world, even all over the world, the women are known as the home maker, not actually because it’s what they are meant for but because they do it better. So, the taking care of the children, buying groceries,  cooking and the likes, they are in charge. However, there’s actually no rules that specify that, the husband can do these things as well, these things shouldn’t be left to the wife alone to do. They are in this together, they both work. It will be unfair to leave everything solely to the wife, especially when they have other roles to play outside the home that takes their energy and time. That is why they are help mates, they should help each other.

Debola Oyekan

 

I think the woman shouldn’t be the only one doing the chores

I personally don’t like the idea. I believe the man should be able to assist once in awhile. Even though it’s the woman’s responsibility to do some of these but she’ll appreciate it and respect him more if he assists especially when he volunteers to willingly without being told.

What if something happens like the woman falls ill or unfortunately dies, how will the man cope?

Olaobaju Deborah Iyanuoluwa

 

I feel things are changing now. Women are more aware of their abilities, the fact that they can multi task and do things. Women are evolving. So, the woman should not be in charge of the home front alone. Our mothers were loyal to their husbands and they had traditions that kept them managing that. But some of them were wiser and better accountants than their husbands and they had talents.

Both sexes were created for different things. As a woman, it’s talent to know how to take care of the home front. So because something is not loud doesn’t mean it’s not impacting.   So  women are good at their home front and yet still outstanding in organisation because of their innate talents, intuition and so they should not be relegated. Man and woman coming and working together works magic. And so the man should be part of the home front, as long as they even could make a baby together.

Jesuloba Owoeye

 

No it shouldn’t. These things shouldn’t be up for discussion as it should be built in the relationship too as they are partners and not slaves to one another. Relationship comes with a lot of responsibilities, commitments, Also understanding and respect apart from the love . These things about gender roles shouldn’t be made to make one look weak or lesser, it should be of mutual respect and benefits, anyone can do any of the chores when he or she feels.

David Coker

 

No. I so much belief in feminism but because we’re Africans, we believe taking care of the house is a woman’s job but it’s for the two. You don’t want to know the stress a woman passes through in doing all these so they should both do the chores so the man will know house chores is also a normal job a woman should be paid for. But because we all see it as a woman’s job to take care of the home and her husband as the head should come back and  enjoy after the day’s work not knowing the stress she passed through.

-Lola Otitoloju

 

A wife is a partner to the husband. The house chores is not meant for the wife alone. The husband is to assist her in all aspects. In this, it makes their love stronger. That doesn’t mean the wife should take the husband for granted. My submission.

Taiwo Ajayi

 

Having the woman in charge of the home front all on her own while she works just as much as the man is just unfair and outdated. The chores should be shared between both parties. If they can afford it and are open to it, they can request a house help.

Victor Daniel

 

I believe the husband should assist at least once in a while.

Ayomide Adedeji

 

They are both in the marriage together so the work load  shouldn’t be left alone to the woman. Fine they both provide for the home and in some cases its just the man who is working but the man should be able to take up responsibilities too if not everytime but once in a while, he should be able to help out with cooking, dressing the kids, buying groceries  and all other house chores.  For instance, I used to  know of a family where in this case the wife was not even working but the husband wouldn’t let his wife prepare moi moi alone, we all know how stressful it is to make it. He told her specifically not to try to prepare it if he wasn’t around to help her with it and on several occasions I saw him help his wife with house chores even mopping the floor (to some men to even try this means he is belittling himself). As funny as this may sound they even have a roaster for chores  in their home.  So the bottom line is if true love exist both parties won’t see helping each other out in the house as a big deal, the man won’t see helping his wife out with cleaning or cooking as belittling himself.

Alexandra Adams

 

I think it’s mainly the woman’s chore taking care of the home front; caring for the kids, getting groceries, cooking. The home is the woman’s major work regardless of their secular jobs. But the husband should still assist, it doesn’t have to be shared or divided. If you care about someone and get married to someone that loves you, he should know when you are overwhelmed and decide to do certain things on his own volition not it being imposed on him. He should be able to assist when the need arises.

Chioma Ajunwa