Infidelity dares inflation

Infidelity has continued to play a disastrous role in the marriage institution these days, more than ever before. I mentioned in one of my write-ups that infidelity is a ground for marital conflict and, as such, it must be dealt with. However, the best way to deal with it is to make it an exception rather than a rule, especially for married couples. I did mention that it is an issue that is difficult to deal with in marital conflict resolution, especially by men. This keeps being confirmed regularly by newly married couples committing murder and suicide because of spousal infidelity. What a sad occurrence.

One is forced to ask, why has infidelity become ‘two a penny’ in our society, defying inflationary trends? While the prices of all products are hitting the roof, infidelity keeps getting cheaper and cheaper. It is even being obtained for free in some instances. It is becoming increasingly difficult to keep this monster out of the marriage institution. This is because infidelity has become easy to procure these days. Why is this so? The way out is the focus of this write-up. “Igboro ti Daru gan ni o.” (The days are evil indeed.) One can almost swear that no marriage is immune to this monster that is destroying lives and marriages. Or, at best, only a small percentage of marriages are spared from infidelity engagement.

A lot of factors make infidelity easily accessible these days, and some of them are enumerated below:

*Increased nudity and immoral visual assault.

Nudity has become the norm these days. What used to be offensive to mortal eyes is no longer an issue. So, the eyes of society constantly behold lust. Hence, lustful assault is unleashed on us, becoming a gateway to unrestricted s3x. The eyes play a major role in s3xual engagement, and this is what nudity takes advantage of. Just yesterday, I watched a video clip on social media in which a lady wore a jeans trousers with holes at the back, revealing her buttocks and the rope-like pants. What a horrible site to behold.

*Economic stimulus encouraging infidelity

Global economic recession is negatively impacting sexual purity. Many people are pushed into sexual engagement without boundaries as a result of the prevailing harsh economic conditions. Survival, rather than commitment to moral values, has taken the central stage in our society.

Job situations are taking people out of their immediate family and homes, making many married couples absentee husbands and wives. Fathers and mothers have contributed to the growth of infidelity in society. We have increasingly moved away from the weekend husband/wife slogan to the month-end husband/wife status. This makes married couples more vulnerable and easily susceptible to infidelity.

*Increased s3xual knowledge

At the push of one button on our phones, handsets, computers, and television sets, s3xual information without boundaries is made available. It is so bad to the extent that its aberrations are presented as well. So, one is fully loaded to engage in s3x and its aberrations with ease. Knowledge is key to engaging in many things, including s3x. Knowing what to do in a sex act, with ease, has promoted infidelity in marriage.

*A growing army of divorced persons and single parents

Many people have come to embrace the status of divorced and single parents. It is becoming increasingly acceptable for one to eat his or her cake and still keep it. One can easily have children outside marriage, and divorce status is gradually finding acceptance with ease. This has negatively impacted the sanctity of marriage, leaving society with an army of divorced or single parents. We cannot pretend that this is not impacting the sanctity of marriage, even though many attain such a status with no fault of theirs.

*Unfulfilled marital expectations

A lot of married people have unrealised marital expectations that they search for outside marriage. Many factors, such as wrong marital purpose, personality disorder, economic downturn, etc., are the culprits in this case. So, the search for the unfulfilled desires in many areas has taken over many married couples, such that the search is extended to impossible places, where even angels fear to tread.

*Loose friendship and family boundaries

Our society has become careless about relationship boundaries. Friends’ visitation in the absence of married spouses and living with family members of the opposite sex has become rampant. As such, ample opportunities present themselves for infidelity. That is why we have an increased occurrence of friends sleeping with their spouses or themselves. A friend can visit the house of another friend in the absence of his or her married spouse. This makes it easier for people to engage in infidelity.

Not only that, live-in family members have been caught “in the very act” with wives and husbands of brothers and sisters, cousins and nieces, etc. It is like “hell” has been let loose, based on the alarming rate of infidelity involving family members and friends. These are people one could almost swear that they would not walk in the periphery of such behaviours. But it is not the case anymore.

*Breakdown of societal moral values.

The moral value system of many societies has become eroded in many areas, including s3x. What many societies would frown at as immoral is being brazenly engaged in today. It is like our societies have gone mad. The untouchables are being touched with impunity with little or no consequences. So, immoral acts keep thriving among us.

Do we now see the need for us to wear face masks so that we do not breathe in the ‘infidelity’ air pervading our environment? It means we have to be deliberate in confronting these factors of infidelity, among others. We can no longer afford to be careless in conducting our relationships, both at the friendship and family levels. Boundaries must be put in place to make infidelity engagement difficult, if not impossible. Why will I visit my friend’s husband alone, in her absence? And vice versa.

The days are evil, and we can no longer pretend about it. This is the cry today, and we must not shy away from shouting it on the mountains, over the hills, and everywhere that infidelity is in the air. If a nose mask was needed to combat COVID-19, infidelity deserves no less. Go get your mask. Our insanity must be cured, while our sanity must be restored on all fronts in the marriage institution. It requires a state of emergency to be declared in the marriage institution.

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