Dear Yemisi,
I think I have taken a wrong decision. I am a 17-year-old girl. I am in SSS3.
It happened that I have a crush in my friend’s boyfriend the first time I was admitted to the school. As time went on, I happened to be in the same association with him. In short, I am truly in love with him, but I hide my feelings because he is our association’s leader.
I think he has noticed my action, he later called me and requested for my username on the Facebook.
We started chatting and calling each other. He is now in love with me and my friend has found out. She asked him, but to my surprise, he said he loves me and not my friend.
Please, advise me, should I keep dating him?
Wua, 0*0******9*.
Dear Wua,
It appears you are not feeling comfortable with your decision from the content and my understanding of your request. Since you have been condemned by your inner mind, why not give peace a chance?
Wua, what you are doing is better described as betrayal. Though at your age, fantasy and infatuation cannot be ruled out because it is a natural feeling.
This leader of your association should be avoided as much as possible because he cannot change. If he could deny being in love with your friend then he can deny any other girl.
You will be betraying trust and relationship if you go ahead to date this guy who has no integrity. He is only interested in the now and will ditch you the same way he has to your friend.
Put yourself in your friend’s shoes and feel her hurt and pains.
Wua, you are getting unnecessarily exposed to atrocious living too early in the day. If you have started as a boyfriend snatcher as an SSS3 student, what are you going to be called in the higher institution. If I were you, I’ll tell the guy to his face to stop daydreaming.
Cease from welcoming him and face your studies. Apologise to your friend and move on.
and then