I don’t want to lose him

Dear Yemisi,

I am 23 years old. I have a boyfriend who is three years older than I. I love him so much, but these days, I don’t understand him any longer, he behaves strangely towards me. He has another girl he is dating in his work place.

The day I talked to him about his behaviour led to misunderstanding between us. Each time I called him to talk to him about his behaviour, the reply he gave was that I should not confide in him much, in case he hurts me, which I did not understand. I do not know what to do because I love him and I don’t want to lose him.

Anonymous, 080*******1.

Dear Anonymous,

Once you have reached a stage when you can no longer understand your boyfriend, then you need no fortune teller to tell you that the game is up.

Age has nothing to do with maturity. That he is three years older than you does not suggest that he will behave as your elder brother. How did you know that he has another girlfriend in his work place? I hope you are not merely suspecting him because of his behaviour and comments.

Your having to call him to talk about his behaviour at all times might have bored him and lead to his reaction of handing you stern warning.

If he had told you not to confide in him so much, then it behoves you to be cautious of  how you carry yourself around. From his warning, he is the least interested in you and will do anything to make you go lose your sense.

Please, for sanity sake, you have not arrived at your destination. But if you take time to consider his submissions, he might be feeling your pulse on who exactly you are. If you can no longer tolerate his unpredictable attitude, please, give him time to review his relationship with you.

Losing him now is still amenable as there are other reasonable men out there who you could meet with to put smiles on your face. Left to me, he has told you the piece of his mind which calls for no sentiment from you.

From his attitude, he is in no way in love with you, you are the one forcing your love on him.

Be courageous enough to take a walk.