4 things to do after you find out your partner cheated

At the very moment when you discover that your partner has been unfaithful, your heart is shattered. Cheating can feel like the ultimate betrayal.

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1. Let the anger and pain out
2. Assess the situation
3. Understand what you can do
4. Revenge is not an option

An emotional reaction similar to grief can follow from cheating. This is because the relationship that you once knew is no longer there. It can be emotionally draining and devastating for you to come to terms with your partner’s infidelity. You may not understand how to react to such a situation because this can alter the situation in your family or relationship to an unimaginable extent.

To help you out, here are some things you can do after you find out that your partner has cheated.

1. Let the anger and pain out

It is okay to cry in the ugliest way possible. Your heart and trust have been broken and it is only fair to allow yourself to mourn such a situation. Crying doesn’t make you weak; it only makes you stronger as it helps you to vent out to a large extent. If you also need to scream your heart out, do that.

2. Assess the situation

When you have finally acknowledged the situation and are in terms with it, try to assess why it all happened. Why did your partner cheat on you? What were their intentions when they cheated on you? Try to think about this from every angle.

3. Understand what you can do

Now that you have finally assessed this situation, evaluate your options. Can you afford to separate from your partner or do you want to forgive your partner? Try to carefully evaluate the consequences of what route you decide to take.

4. Revenge is not an option

This may look like the sweetest option right now, but you may regret this for the rest of your life. Don’t stoop so low that you end up taking revenge on your partner by cheating on them with someone else. Don’t do this just because they did. Learn to accept, forgive, or let go.

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