LAST week, we started considering commitment being the heart of any marriage that must succeed. In that write up, I discussed commitment of each couple to the marriage institution as an angle to the much needed commitment in marriage.
Today, our focus is on the commitment of couples to each other, as partners in the marriage. For the marriage to succeed, each partner must demonstrate absolute commitment to themselves. That is, they must pledge their commitment to the persons they are as individuals. Commitment brings you and your spouse to a deeper level of passion, friendship, understanding, respect, and appreciation for one another.
A closer look at two of the conventional, non denominational marital vows will reveal an expression of a strong commitment of couples to each other:
1.”I, __, take you, __, to be no other than yourself. Loving what I know of you, trusting what I do not yet know of you, I will respect your integrity and have faith in your abiding love for me, through all our years, and in all that life may bring us.” I take you as my wife/husband, with your faults and your strengths, as I offer myself to you with my faults and my strengths. I will help you when you need help, and turn to you when I need help. I choose you as the person with whom I will spend my life.”
2. “I, ___, take thee, ___, to be my wedded husband/wife, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part, according to God’s holy ordinance; and thereto I pledge thee my faith [or] pledge myself to you.”
If such commitment is respected and strictly adhered to by couples, marriages will never be viewed as a necessary evil. With such commitment, divorce will be kept at bay, spousal abuse will become a thing of the past and passionate sex will be a regular feature in the marriage setting. If you are committed to your spouse, you will not cheat on him/her, beat her, or abandon him/her in difficult times.
Rather you will nurture, adore, cherish and hold each other for life. I strongly believe that lack or loss of commitment to each other is the reason why marriages are crashing so fast these days. So, let every couple renew their commitment to each other, and marriages will generally become heaven on earth, rather than being a necessary evil.
YOU CAN GET A COPY OF MY BOOK’’ ENJOYING GREAT SEXLIFE’’ BY CONTACTING ME ON 08112658560
My book, ENJOYING GREAT SEXLIFE, is a good manual to help preserve the marriage institution. You can call me on 08112658560 for copies
and then