Are dating Apps truly evil?

DATING apps have become a part of our fast-paced lives. It is a staple in the twenty-first century, but like other inventions and innovations targeted at Gen Z, it has its own fair share of criticism. This week on WhatsApp Conversations, we turn our attention to Dating apps. Are they truly evil? Can they be good?

 

Tosin Awoniyi

A dating application is a programme that allows one to meet potential romantic partners. But from my own point of view, I think dating application is a smash. Why? I believe Because dating application brings a lot of stigma to someone. How? because joining a dating application is an unsafe and desperate option for many.

 

Dating application is a smash because of the following reasons:

1. Cybercrime: Individuals on a dating application are often victims of cybercrime like bullying and scams like getting followed when the application shows you a location where you would cross paths with the person.
2. Identity Theft: When using a dating application, some of one’s potential lovers may be hiding their identity.
3. Expect dishonesty from dating applications: This is? because what you would see won’t always be what you would get.

 

Eraboh Matthew

Overall, dating apps are a joke. A sick joke. However, whether it is a smash or a pass depends on a variety of factors. For starters, dating apps are much easier for women. Dating apps are not so favourable towards men. How much easier do women have it vs men? It is not the fault of those apps; it is more about the resolve of women.

Women on average get 20 times more likes than men and are judged more fairly than men. Chances are, if you’re a guy, you may have found it hard to find a decent match with a decent girl who wants something more than a casual fling. So, what can we draw from this? A few things and sadly, they tend to be true.

If you’re a below-average-looking guy, good luck getting matches. If you’re an average looking guy. It’ll take you awhile to get matches. You can easily go months, with barely any decent matches or likes. If you’re above average handsome. Good for you! You’ll get matches and women will be interested in you!

If you’re a below-average-looking girl, you’ll get some matches… from generally below-average-looking guys. And most of these girls will swipe left expecting a handsome guy to match with them.

If you’re an average-looking girl… you’ll get matches. Sometimes more than five a day on average.If you’re a gorgeous girl, you’ll be getting a ton of hits.

Also, too many women are so shallow. Like it’s disgusting. The whole “I expect the first message I get to be something super witty and unique”. Like they’re somehow special and deserve some cliche line from a movie or an essay.

 

Boluwatife Ayodele

Generally a bad idea, it’s a smash for me! You have no idea of what the person is like. Looking for a marriage partner, someone you intend to spend the rest of your life with is usually not found on social media! It might start from there but it cannot just be there. We still do much better in such an undertaking by selecting someone we know well—like at your local church, at work, lives in the same town, is meet at a place you and she frequent, like your church, museums, libraries, musical performances, stadiums, and the like.

If none of this is possible for you or fails to produce what you’re looking for, then Dating Apps are a possibility. But it must be used carefully and honestly. And if you’re looking for a one-night-stand, look elsewhere!

If you are serious about looking for someone you can spend your life with, long before dating apps there was something called making friends. Yes, make friends and see where it goes.

 

Oyinye Alexandra

It’s a pass for me. Always has been, always will be.If you’re a bit analytical, and a good judge of character, a dating app profile can tell you a lot of information about a person. Depending on what they post, it can give you a good idea of their interests, their friends,  and all sorts of other details if you’re observant. A picture is worth a thousand words, eh?

Apps or sites are just tools though, if you have a certain mindset going in and stick to it, then you will generally find what you are looking for inevitably. You can use it for just casual dating, or to find a serious relationship. Regardless, dating apps will significantly increase your odds of finding people, with it, you’ll be able to cast a fairly wide net.

On top of that, there are lots of just friends I ended up making through dating apps! We went on a “date” and it ended up forging a great friendship instead of proceeding into anything romantic. it’s a great networking tool, especially if you are new to a city.

Less and less of my friends are entering relationships via the normal way (I.e meeting people at a bar or through friends and what not). I don’t think the fact that you meet on a dating app makes anything less romantic. I mean, if the most defining factor about your relationship is whether or not you met on an app, then frankly there are more pressing concerns to worry about. Love is love and the ends justify the means in this case; Dating Apps Away!

Next week, we will discuss business under the question, what are the most common mistakes first-time entrepreneurs make? To be part of the next edition, send your response to 08136601345 via WhatsApp or SMS.

 

 

 

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