The world of sex toys has undergone a significant transformation in recent years, with an increasing number of people embracing these products as a means to enhance their intimate experiences.
According to a report by Statista Research Department, the global sex toys market is expected to reach $80.7 billion by 2030, indicating a growing demand for these products.
As societal attitudes towards sex and intimacy continue to evolve, more individuals are seeking out ways to explore their desires and improve their relationships. In this shifting landscape, sex toy specialists are playing a crucial role in guiding people through the vast array of products and helping them navigate the complexities of intimacy.
In this candid interview, TRIBUNE ONLINE spoke to a sex toy specialist Adeniyi Shalewa, who shares her journey, insights, and expertise on harnessing the power of pleasure to transform relationships and self-discovery.
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1. What inspired you to become a sex toy specialist, and how did you get started in this field?
Honestly, it started from personal experience. I got tired of how we avoid talking about pleasure like it’s a crime, especially for women. I began learning about these things for myself and noticed how many people around me had questions but didn’t know who to ask. That’s how the idea came, to make it easier for people to access quality sex toys and feel safe talking about their needs. Before I knew it, I became the “go-to” plug.
2. How do you think sex toys can enhance intimacy and pleasure in relationships?
Simple! Sex toys are not here to fight your partner o. They are here to help both of you enjoy yourselves better. They can add spice, help you discover new things about your body, and make the whole experience sweeter. Plus, it helps partners open up and communicate more. Think of toys as small helpers that come in peace.
3. What are some common misconceptions about sex toys, and how do you address them?
Ah, plenty! Some people think only single or desperate people use sex toys, big lie! Others think if you use toys, your partner is not doing well. Another big lie. I try to explain with love and ‘small small’ humour that toys are for anyone who wants to enjoy their body. Whether you’re single, married, shy, or bold… there’s something for everyone.
4. How do you think societal attitudes towards sex toys are changing, and what impact does this have on your work?
Things are definitely changing. People are now more curious and open. Even married women message me saying “My husband and I want to try something new”. I love it. It makes my work easier and more fulfilling. The shame is reducing, and awareness is increasing. We’re getting there, one orgasm at a time.
5. How do you create a safe and non-judgmental space for clients to discuss their needs and desires?
I just act like a good friend that listens. No judgment, no assumptions. Whether you’re asking about vibrators or trying to fix vaginal dryness, I respond with respect and kindness. I also try to keep things private. People should feel safe asking questions, no matter how “weird” it sounds to them.
6. Can you discuss the benefits and drawbacks of different materials used in sex toys (e.g., silicone, latex, glass)?
Yes o! Silicone is one of the best; soft, safe, and easy to clean. Glass toys surprise people but they’re also safe if they’re made well. They’re smooth and good for playing with cold or heat. Latex, on the other hand, can cause allergic reactions and it’s not always safe for the long term. So I always tell people, if it’s going inside your body, please buy the real thing, not those roadside rubbery ones.
7. How can you juxtapose the relationship between AI and sex toys?
Hmm, AI and sex toys dey move like tech bros and electricity, interesting combo. We now have smart toys that adjust based on your body’s response, or toys you can control with an app. Some people are even building sex robots with AI. While I love the tech part, I still believe human touch and real connection are important. But let’s just say the future is looking very… intimate.
8. How do you stay up-to-date with the latest research and guidelines on sexual health and safety?
I follow expert sex educators online, attend webinars, and read a lot of articles. I also stay close to communities that promote sexual wellness. My goal is not just to sell, you must know what you’re selling and how it affects the body. Pleasure is nice, but safety first.
9. Are there any new products, technologies, or innovations that you’re excited about, and how do you think they will shape the industry?
Yes o! I’m excited about toys that work with your natural body signals, and also toys made for people with disabilities or health conditions. It’s not just about luxury anymore, it’s about inclusion. The industry is getting more creative, thoughtful, and body-positive. That’s the kind of growth I love to see.
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