4 health reasons men won’t marry you

Last week, we critically x-rayed four of the numerous reasons ladies say they will not marry men, it is only natural we put on the table what men consider as their most turn off in a prospective life partner.

For men, their configuration makes them interpret matters of the heart quite different; researchers have shown most men will not marry most ladies they have a dating relationship with and some of the reasons are indeed psychological-health related.

 

Obesity

It is on good record that obesity is not gender bias; it affects both man and woman in similar proportion, even though many believe women have more tendencies to be obese.

As preventable as obesity is, World Health Organisation (WHO) statistics revealed that worldwide obesity has nearly tripled since 1975. In 2016, more than 1.9 billion adults, 18 years and older, were overweight. Of these over 650 million were obese.

There is more. 39 per cent of adults aged 18 years and over were overweight in 2016, and 13 per cent were obese. Sadly, most of the world’s population live in countries where overweight and obesity kills more people than underweight.

Samson Ajobiewe, a public and environmental health expert explained that obesity is a medical condition in which excess body fat has accumulated to the extent that it may have an adverse effect on health with high fish of cardiovascular factor.

“As people age, they usually begin to put on weight unless something is done to prevent it. Including good nutrition and regular exercise in your life is important at any age, but a fitness programme can help you maintain a healthy weight and reduce the chances of developing a variety of diseases.

“The effect on marriage includes, but not limited to: Spouse is unable to participate in some family activities; sexual relations have been affected; general health declines; weight gain can cause increased arguments; self-esteem is affected, and all the aforementioned can kill a healthy marriage.

 

Clubbing

How did clubbing make it to a list of sensitive health reasons a man might not marry a woman?

Ojike Ngozi Amarachi thinks most men are overly sensitive to everything and only hides behind a few to do what they already have in mind.

“I strongly disagree that clubbers are dangerous to the health and safety of a marital institution, clubbing doesn’t make one bad.”

Amarachi was however silent on the connection between clubbing and building a healthy marriage.

Mr Bolawa Akinkunmi, a Health and safety officer revealed that “marrying a clubber is tantamount to marrying a potential slut, no normal and sane potential wife and mother should be a party to clubbing and its activities.

Beside the moral attachment, any lady that clubs will have the tendency to explore other clubbing activities, drink, do drugs and other substances, and anyone under the influence of the above can react to minor issues with violence,” he explained.

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HIV

“We have to consider the lives of the unborn children, I don’t want to give birth to children that would be infected with the virus, no matter how much I love her, I’m not sure I can take such risk, Godwin Odiko submitted.

Even though researchers and medicine have said it is possible to produce children that might not be affected by the virus, if the parent(s) are infected, it is still not one of the risks most men are willing to take.

Mr Ajobiewe noted that the “knowledge that your wife-to-be is infected with HIV is demoralising because of the dangers involved in going into such marriage. And it will take seasoned medical personnel to explain the chemistry of reproduction without the offspring being infected too in later years. There is a thin line between faith and medicine, if it is not safe, it is not safe.”

 

Genotype

No matter how much we talk about the relationship between genotype and a successful marriage, we might still not have said enough. It just cannot be overemphasised and that is why both men and women are more conscious about what it brings to the marriage than what it does not.

Mr Ajobiewe highlights compatible genotypes to consider when marriage is in view: AS, AA, SS, SC, AC are the genotypes we have, though SC and AC are not as common as the first three “AA marries an AA. That’s the best compatible. That way you save your future children from having to worry about genotype compatibility in future.

“AA marries an AS. You’ll end up with kids with AA and AS which is good, dicey, but no SS. AS and AS should NOT marry. AS and SS should NOT marry.

“And definitely, SS and SS MUST NOT marry since there’s absolutely no chance of escaping having a child with the sickle cell disease,” he advised.