Is it normal for semen released to discharge itself afterwards?

Dear Yemisi,

AS a newly wedded couple, I want to ask if it is normal for semen released into my wife’s vagina to discharge itself afterwards.

Please, I need your advice as regards my wife who often discharges my semen after we would have made love. We got married just two months ago and I don’t know if this is going to affect her chances of taking in.

Your response will be highly appreciated.

Thank you,

Gbengus, 0*0***13**6.

Dear Gbengus,

It appears you are too anxious in just a two-month-old marriage! As a lay person, I want to put to you these posers which if you are able to answer sincerely will not only put your mind at rest, but reassure you of a fruitful union with your spouse.

To start with, how did you know that your wife is unable to retain your semen? Secondly, since when have you noticed this? Does it mean that you have been seeing each other before you were formally and legally married?

It is not healthy to be feeling the way you are at present because getting married is not a day’s journey, but a lifelong contract.

Naturally, you are bound to be interested in knowing your wife’s status as it concerns her fertility, but you need not fret over this observation of yours. Was she the one who told you that she discharges your sperm immediately after every sexual session?

How did she know that she is unable to retain whatever is deposited in her vagina? All you need to do as a very young couple is to give yourself that breathing space and relax your mind.

Conception can take place when you least expect it. All you need do in the interim is to calm your frayed nerves and be rest assured that semen that will fertilise her ovum will be retained during her fertile days.

In case your wife does not understand her cycle, this is the time for her to take note of her ovulation days for the two of you to get the best of each other during these days.

Seeking a medical advice is very crucial at this stage so that she can go for tests to verify or confirm your claim and recommend what should be done to solve whatever might have caused your observation, if there is any.

You need not make this issue a subject of discussion among your friends who will not only compound your issue, but add to your worries which will come in varied forms.

For now, she does not need any drug that could be recommended by your ‘advisers’.

All she needs most is calmness that she is 100 percent prepared to carry her pregnancy to full term.

Your primary assignment now is to always encourage her that all is well and not for you to be raising unnecessary fears where there is none. Two months is too short a time in marriage to lose one’s sleep.