Asking you whether your relationship with your partner is short-term or for marriage is needless. Yes, almost everyone in a relationship has a long-term goal. But do they all work out? You can answer that. However, If your and your partner’s goal is marriage, then you both need to work towards building a healthy relationship during courtship that will make your decision to be together worth it.
Courtship is a period for you and your partner to decide if you are getting married or not. People say it’s the time to love intelligently and not blindly. So, how do you keep a healthy relationship with your partner during courtship? This article has your answer.
What should you do during courtship?
1. Ask important questions
Why should you ask questions and not just go with the flow? It will guide your decisions moving forward. Ask questions about your partner’s background, genotype, value system, what they think about family, how they want to be loved, and many more questions that are important to you both.
2. Communicate clearly
You are both from different backgrounds and have different personality types. So, communicate about issues, maybe a bad habit, or something you don’t like about their behaviour in clear and straightforward terms. Don’t sweep issues under the carpet because they’ll keep piling up until there’s an outburst.
3. Set goals
During courtship, you both could set goals to achieve something. Indeed, you both may not be interested in the same things, but there are things you can do, if you find a common ground between you or just things that you both find intriguing.
4. Personal growth
Your commitment to personal growth would spill over to your relationship with your partner during courtship. So, staying true to the goal of being the best version of yourself is a good choice.
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5. Transparency
A relationship built on a bedrock of lies would eventually crumble no matter how strong it appears. Don’t lie about anything at all, not even who you are. You should be honest and open in your interactions with your partner during courtship.
6. Forgiveness
During courtship with your partner, you should extend grace to them because offences are unavoidable, and you’re both imperfect people coming together to build a relationship.
7. Don’t hide your struggles
One mistake you don’t want to make is keeping your struggles to yourself when you have a partner to share them with. Of course, there are times you’d probably want to handle things by yourself, and that’s fine. However, don’t suffer in silence. That’s part of transparency. It’s not only the good moments you share with them. Being in a relationship with your partner also entails letting them in on the seemingly bad moments.
8. Accountability
No relationship is a walk in the park. That’s why it’s important to have systems or symbols of guidance and accountability during courtship. They will help you take the right steps in the right direction and help you navigate mistakes effectively.
Above all, in everything you do, ensure you get your facts right during courtship and never settle for less.
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