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Re: Do I go back to him?

Dear readers,
Last week, one of our readers, Rachael, sent in a letter explaining how her husband of almost five years abandoned her when she was diagnosed with fibroid. She eventually went abroad for treatment, courtesy of her elder brother and is back in the country. However, she is contemplating going back to her husband.
Here are reactions of some readers to her story.

Dear readers,

Last week, one of our readers, Rachael, sent in a letter explaining how her husband of almost five years abandoned her when she was diagnosed with  fibroid. She eventually went abroad for treatment, courtesy of her elder brother and is back in the country. However, she is contemplating going back to her husband.

Here are reactions of some readers to her story.

 

DEAR Rachael, kindly forget this man. Discuss with your mum and quietly get a job outside your present location and open your heart to receive a fresh love from another responsible man. Also, get close to a genuine pastor that can counsel and pray for you. Olugbenga Aloko, Ilorin, 08064226266.

Rachael, since you have said that you were the one actually in love, you should consider yourself lucky that you have survived all the trials at the hands of a gold digger you mistakenly married. Pray for your real husband. Biola, Ogun State, 08039598283.

Rachael, Going back to someone who has no feeling for you whatsoever is like gladly signing off one’s existence. You have forced yourself on this man enough. Tunde, Ido, 08065005099.

Rachael, I sincerely feel deeply touched. My advice for you is to give yourself rest of mind. Have trust in God, surely He shall make you happy. San, Oyo, 08054038757.

Rachael, this man does not love you since he has been concerned about your situation. Don’t force yourself on him. God will give you a man who will make you smile. Habu, 08105110010.

Rachael, I was sincerely moved with passion as I was imagining what you are going through. You should be grateful to God for sparing your life. Seek the face of God for direction. 08060702586.

Rachael, I read your story and I can feel your pain, but the only solution to this is to run to Jesus, 08170544401.

Rachael, I share your pain and my advice for you is to follow your heart, this man, is not your husband. There is no point wasting time on a forced marriage. Look unto God, be happy and the Lord will bless you with the right man who will give you the love and happiness you desire, Olukemi, 08186536302.

Rachael, you don’t have to stay back; don’t even think of being with such a person in your life. God really loves you and He has saved you from calamity. God will do a new thing in your life. Kindly, forget your past experience. You love him, but he does not. Going back to such a man is risky. Abodunrin Ogunwole, Osun, 08132862640.

Rachael, look unto God, He will perfect your ways, your acclaimed husband is not yours, your own will come, wait for the Lord, 08129629076.

Rachael, look for a new husband. God bless you. Olu Awoyinfa, 08033081426.

Racheal, I was very touched and bitter by your story because I am a man. My simple advice for you is to forget ever marrying the man in the first place because he is not man enough to be called one… Look up to God and you will surely meet your own man in due course. Don’t think about what the world would say about you living a healthy and happy life with your future family. I wish you all the best. Ayodele, 08035182555.

Rachael, your husband must be sick if all you have sent to Dear Yemisi is the truth. Stay put in your father’s place till you prayerfully consider your next action. I am praying for you. Segunsam, 08034049173.

Dear Rachael, I am here in Millstone, NJ reading your story. I am terribly saddened by it. Firstly, you came from a polygamous home which is a literal war zone spiritually. You managed to get education and graduated, but they were waiting for you. Secondly, you were manipulated to marry a man who does not love you, thirdly, you were manipulated to accept  a wrong diagnosis  and unnecessary operation and finally brought back home where you began. My counsel is this, forget about your husband in the mean time, find a strong spirit-filled church and give your life to Jesus if you have not. He is the only one who can help you get out of your father’s house that is where your problem is. Try and get a job somewhere else, perhaps in Lagos. You have a battle ahead of you, but Jesus can help you. Please, run to Him fast. Donquixote61

Rachael, marriage is meant to be enjoyed and not to be endured. Your so called husband does not love you. Don’t waste your time with him. God will make a way for you. 07067978812.

Rachael, I pray the Lord will open your eyes of understanding. Your so called husband is married to another woman. He does not care about you. Ask God to give you the bone of your bones. Pastor Paul, 08100569850.

Rachael, don’t marry him again. Go and pack your things for the sake of your life. God will give you your own husband. 08038127495.

Rachael, I don’t think this man actually love you. He is after your parents’ wealth. The earlier you forget about him, the better. 08066472253.