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Overcoming sexual boredom in marriage

There’s a saying, which is not far from the truth, but not without exception about married couples, that they get bored overtime with each other, such that the intoxicating sexual appeal seem to disappear. This is hinged on the premise that having seen the good and the bad of each other, they no longer find each other appealing in beauty, sex, and other areas.

This is likened to a state of eating the same type of food for years, which after some time becomes monotonous. Thus, there’s the tendency to begin to crave for some other types of food. The truth of the matter is that one can overcome such spousal boredom by being intentional about it. As a matter of fact, we have examples of married couples who have been able to do this, and doing it well.

Spicing up their sex life with varieties: That’s like eating beans in different ways such as beans cake, beans soup, beans porridge, beans spiced with fish etc, likewise, sex can be engaged using various styles, locations, and time. On this platform, we have discussed severally on spicing up your sex life in marriage. You can avail yourself of the article in our archives. However, let me say the following about this:

Styles: The traditional style of man on top of the woman doesn’t produce the best of enjoyment for couples. Trying out other styles will help you to come up with the most fulfilling sexual experience. That is, you will discover what style produces the best sexual fulfillment for you.
Location:I was thrilled recently with information bothering on sex on the bed. The person said that certain female bodies are not good for sex on the bed. Soft, fat, heavy laden buttocks fall into this category. Such require hard surfaces like the floor, kitchen table, sitting room chairs, etc. A trial should convince you.
Time: Early morning sex and spontaneous or surprise sex add spices to a couple’s sexual fulfillment. All these will kick out sexual boredom in your marriage.

Stop being irritable

It’s a known fact that sex, especially with females is a thing of the mind. Therefore, you cannot engage in ‘love making sex’ when you are unhappy. Irritable acts are sex turn off in marriage. Nagging, murmuring, dirty habits, erratic conduct, stubbornness and the likes will not make for easy sex flow. That is why I mentioned love making sex. This is different from sex act. It’s the reason why sex is also called love making. Love making sex is more mutually fulfilling for couples than just sex, which is merely a duty bound affairs. To experience boredom free sex, couples must stop irritating one another.

Stop being intolerant of your spouse

Couples should understand that tolerance is a major key in relationships, especially in marriage. When tolerance is absent in a marriage, or it’s at the lowest ebb, it makes couples to walk around on egg shells. They barely can enjoy love making in the marriage. In most cases, they have to engage in sex based on fulfilling all righteousness, which is to fulfill conjugal obligation. Couples should therefore work on improving the tolerance level in the marriage. It will help to kill sexual boredom, and increase the sex appeal therein.

Stop comparing your spouse with another

A lot of married couples run into crisis by comparing their marriage with others. The truth is that no two marriages are the same. You must understand individuality and uniqueness of persons in marriage. Yes, it’s good to want to copy a successful marriage, but you should be careful never to swallow hook, line andsinker, fisherman and his boat of such marriage. Another thing is contentment which is a great gain. Let the breasts of your wife satisfy you, and let the pri*k of your husband give you comfort. Stop looking for what is not lost. With love and care you can produce the best results with your spouse’s body features.

Avoid extra marital affairs

It kills your love and offers you false alternative to your spouse. A lady complained to an elderly friend that her husband didn’t know how to engage in sex. The friend simply confronted her with extra marital affairs act. Because if she had not tasted sex with other men, she couldn’t have discovered that there’s a way sex act should be with her husband. Watching phonography, sharing sexual experience with others can provide a lead. Extra marital affairs give room for new sexual experiences. A lady said she started suspecting her husband of extra marital affairs when he started demanding for oral sex, after over a decade of being married. Eventually, it turned out to be the absolute truth. This (extra marital affairs) can cause sexual boredom to set in, with your spouse. It’s like having tasted good food somewhere else, you become dissatisfied with your regulars, and thus look forward to tasting that good food. Staying away from extra marital affairs will up your sex game and kill sexual boredom in your marriage.

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