A father’s love, concern for his daughter

A review of Chika Abanobi’s book, What’s Up Message: From Best Dad to Dearest Daughter.

CHIKA Abanobi’s book, What’s Up Message: From Best Dad to Dearest Daughter, dwells on a father’s love and concern for daughter.

Abanobi, an award-winning journalist with The Sun Newspapers, is able to capture what fathers feel for their daughters, especially the love in their early years, and the concern as they grow up into young adults.

The book starts with people who have blazed the trail in their academic and professional lives, and when asked for the secret of their success, they attribute it to the support of their parents, particularly their fathers.

Alex Iyaji and Olumayowa Temidayo Daodu set high standards in their academics at the Benue State University and the Nigerian Law School and they both appreciated their fathers for always encouraging them to study hard while in school.

Abanobi also focuses on Nigerian actresses who all adore their fathers; actresses like Bimbo Ademoye, Omoni Oboli, Uzo Osimkpa, Belinda Effah, Uche Jombo, among others, who always speak glowingly about their fathers, even despite the fact that some of fathers are late.

The book also takes readers across the Atlantic, where they read about Michelle Obama and Hilary Clinton’s relationship with their fathers.

Nigeria’s award-winning novelist, Chimamanda Ngozi-Adichie’s pain at losing her father is also shared in the book.

The essence of such connection is the fact that the fathers also played their roles properly in the lives of their children, so Abanobi is using the same standard to gauge his relationship with his daughter, Victory.

In his messages to his daughter, Abanobi keeps asking if his daughter will also speak glowingly of him when she attains success.

The author also uses the opportunity to guide his daughter in the right direction, where he discusses the need for her to face her studies, move with good and studious friends and the need to quickly restitute when she ‘misses the way.’

He also discusses the role of self-discipline and hard work

One interesting aspect of the book is the quotes shared by the author, which shows that the connection between a father and his daughter is historical and eternal.

For example, Ama H. Vanniarachchy says: “A father’s tears and fears are unseen, his love is unexpressed, but his care and protection remain as a pillar of strength throughout our lives.”

Stanley T. Banks says: “You fathers will understand. You have a little girl. She looks up to you. You’re her oracle. You’re her hero. And then the day comes when she gets her first permanent wave and goes to her first real party, and from that day on, you’re in a constant state of panic.”

Abanobi has simply detailed the thinking of fathers, especially when their daughters become young adults; most fathers cannot discuss the things shared in the book with their daughters, so the author has really helped in this area.

The book is, therefore, recommended for fathers, mothers, children, everybody, as it will help one to understand how parents think. Most of the times that children think their parents are tough or harsh but simply stated they have a reason, and that reason is love.

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