Winning your husband’s heart II

Marriage is meant to be enjoyed and not endured. Today however, more people are enduring their marriages than enjoying them. For many women, this is indeed a puzzle: the man that was once head over heels in love with them, who could do anything for them, now acts like a total stranger. In search for solution, they move from one prayer house to another, but all to no avail. Last week, in the first part of this write-up, we established the fact that winning your man’s heart entails more than you just wishing and praying, you’ve got to learn to do some things differently. One of the things that must be given attention to is your sex life because sex for a man is as important as food.

Make it exciting

It is not enough for a woman to be there for her man sexually, it is more important that she contributes her quota to making every sexual intercourse an exciting one.  Many women believe they are meant to be just receivers. So, they just lie there like logs of wood, not contributing to the act of sex, waiting for the man to just get it done. This does not make for a great sex. For sex to be great for the two partners involved, they both must participate. Your man may not tell you, but I can speak authoritatively that he doesn’t enjoy being on the giving end alone. Like he is touching you, he desires that you touch him as well. He desires that you guide his hand to the part of your body that gives you utmost pleasure per time.

In making it exciting, another thing your husband desires is that you sometime take the initiative. An average Nigerian woman believes she will be playing cheap if she initiates sexual intercourse with her husband by making the first move. And this belief does not only stop her from initiating it, even when wants sex, she pretends as if she does not want it, in order not to appear cheap. But this is not the truth. My research has revealed to me that rather than men looking down on their wives for initiating sex, they see it as something great. In fact, it is something every man looks forward to because it gives them a sense of fulfilment. They see it as a confirmation from their wives that they are satisfying her sexually and that she approves of them sexually. It boosts their ego, it boosts their self-esteem. It boosts their self-confidence and gives them an assurance that no man can lure her into it in their absence.

Another thing that makes your sexual life exciting to your man is your verbally expressing your satisfaction to him in the very act. It is not a crime to let your man know that you are enjoying him, after all, that man is the only man you can call yours in the whole world. And the truth is, men love it when their wives tell them how great they are in bed. It makes them feel on top of the world and drive them to do everything possible to get better at the act. This is the reason many men will leave their pretty wives and patronize a sex worker because she makes them to feel like real men. Remember, because she is marketing herself so that they will always come back to her, she goes out of her way to give it to him the way he wants it. The worst thing is, many of such sex workers have ended up taking over the heart of the man completely.

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