Would you keep your single friends when you marry?

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Sometimes, when people get married, the relationship between them and their friends, when they were single, wans. This could be attributed to some factors such as eroding trust and loyalty, new schedules and priorities, and demanding home and work activities. This prompted our topic today. Joel Okoeguale assisted in sourcing responses for this topic. Below are some of the responses from our contributors:

Tosin Awoniyi

I cannot keep my single friends when I am married because some friends, nowadays, cannot be trusted. They (friends) could backstab or betray someone, especially if they know that one is married to a wealthy man and is living comfortably more than them.

Ngozi Okoro

Marriage does not mean conformity. I cherish the differences in my friendships, whether someone is single or married. It is about celebrating those distinctions and appreciating the uniqueness each friend brings to my life.

Osas

Marriage brings about significant changes in a person’s life, including commitments, priorities, and lifestyle adjustments. With these changes, maintaining friendships, especially with single friends, might not be a priority for some individuals. However, it is essential to recognise the value of these connections and make efforts to sustain them.

Blessing

I would keep my friends when I get married. They were my friends before I got married, so I do not see any reason not to keep them.

Tope Babalola

I would. I cannot throw away the friendship of many years because I am married. There are some things I cannot share with my single friends, but I would not abandon what we have shared for years because of marriage.

Samuel Akanni

I see no reason not to keep my single friends. Communication is key in any relationship. If my single friends are important to me, I would communicate that to my partner and ensure that our social life includes everyone, maintaining a healthy balance.

Rotondwa Nemalili

True friendship is a blessing. Even after marriage, such must be kept. We must cherish real friendship and keep it. It is a blessing.

Jesse Francis

My single friends offer different perspectives on life, relationships, and experiences that are valuable. Maintaining those friendships improves my understanding of different lifestyles and keeps life interesting.

Kikelomo Adekunle

Yes, I would. That is why they are my friends. What many people struggle to deal with is creating boundaries in relationships. I try to define friendships and everyone knows their limits. Many people have problems because, before they marry, they do not put a line on things. So, it is difficult for them to do that when they marry.

Layo Ayomikun

Marriage does not mean abandoning friendships. I value my single friends because we share a history and many experiences. Just because my relationship status changes does not diminish the importance of those connections.

Hannah Aiyeomoni

Yes, I would keep my single friends. Friendship is a support system, and getting married does not change that. My single friends have been there for me during ups and downs, and I would want to maintain that support after getting married.

Peace Ogochukwu

I see no reason to cut ties. Friendship contributes to personal growth, and my single friends have played a significant role in shaping who I am. I wish our friendship would continue forever because my close friends mean the world to me. I have very good friends, and I do not intend to lose them. It is important to continue fostering those connections.

Dolapo Ademide

In anything one does, wisdom is needed. Friendship is an integral part of one’s social life. Cutting off single friends, post-marriage, may create an unintentional divide. It is important to maintain a balance between different aspects of life.

Cynthia Osieta

I would. Friendship is not exclusive to single or married individuals. We all continue to learn and grow. Keeping single friends enriches my life with different experiences and insights.

Similoluwa Badmus

When you are married, many things change. Your immediate family − husband and children − are now your priority. So, I would taper off on making friendships as soon as I am in a serious relationship. It is the normal thing to do.

Lynda Bamidele

Why would anyone not keep their friends after marriage? It shows the kind of person or friend one is. Maintaining friendship is important. I would retain my friends for as long as forever because we have been through a lot together for me to leave them after marriage. Friendship is equally important to me.

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