Subtle signs your partner is just plain toxic

Do you ever hear someone say, “If only I’d realised that when he or she did such and such, it meant I should leave” Well, say goodbye fast to a lover who displays any of these signs.

Your partner…

• Keeps saying how much he or she likes you, but only has time to get together a couple of times a month

If someone is really into building a relationship, he or she will offer much more than lip service about being ready to get serious. He or she will make time in a busy schedule for a new love. This type of under-the-radar toxic person not only rarely sees you, but hardly ever calls. Engaging in more than the occasional text takes too much time and energy away from the incredibly demanding life of Mr. or Ms. Devoted-To-You-Oh Yeah-What’s-Your-Name? And odds are this wonderful new lover blames the scarcity of time the two of you spend together on you always being busy!

 

• Says you’re great yet there’s always something about you he or she criticises

This charmer thinks you’re the best thing since the invention of chocolate brownies. And yet — you wear too much makeup or you should wear more makeup or you’re not a good listener or you are too quiet or…. You get the point.

Dating a person who can’t support who you are as you are, and always finds “little things” that should be improved means that the one improvement you should really make is jettisoning Mr. or Ms. Fault-Finder from your life ASAP.

 

• Is good at talking about his/her problems, but doesn’t listen when you have things on your mind

The all-about-me-all-the-time person expects you to be by his or her side, ears atingle to hear every precious word uttered. When he or she has a sniffle, it’s your job to run over with chicken soup. However, if you have something you want advice on or just an ear, your lover’s eyes take on a glassy look and the conversation is quickly turned back to his or her favorite subject — guess who?

Don’t be suckered into thinking whatever is on your mind isn’t as important as your lover’s needs. Healthy relationships are two-way streets, not one-way only.

 

• Is jealous when things are going well for you

This super-insecure person can’t take it when you have something good happen to you. If your new partner minimises your success, acts resentful, passive-aggressive, emotionally distant, jealous and/or super sulky instead of praising you to the skies over your achievement, then we have a problem. Your best move in this case: Abort the mission!

 

• Is never wrong; absolutely incapable of apologising

The person you are dating does not have to be a full-on narcissist in order to demonstrate he or she is someone who does not deserve your consideration as a potential lifetime partner.

When someone always has to be right, even when it’s clear he or she is wrong, that is a sign of rampant rigidity and self-denial. Many women in therapy sessions have confided how their partner committed wrongs ranging from standing them up to indulging in a display of bad temper, yet refusing to admit to bad behaviour.

 

• Is constantly trash-talking an ex

When a person casts him- or herself as a total innocent and a former lover as someone who is a malevolent, selfish, grotesque human being with not one redeeming quality, your response should be, “OK, I’m outta here. Best of luck to you.”

Because the message being imparted by the relentlessly nasty outpouring is that one day that is how you will be talked about.

Courtesy: http://www.sheknows.com