What men need to know about female orgasm (II)

Continued from last week

Sexual Make-up of Women

Not understanding the sexual make up of women can also be a hindrance in understanding female orgasm. Men need to know that women are not as men are. Men are immediately stimulated by sight but women are not. They need more time. They need the right atmosphere, some romance; sometimes soft music can help. To get her to desire you and want to have sex, you have to court her, so that she feels like an attractive woman, and not like a service provider. Men can often make up a quarrel by making love, but women need to feel that the relationship is good first, in order to feel desired. She needs to get in the right mood. Her man can be helpful and give her a lot of care and appreciation.

Distraction

Some women are easily distracted from what’s going on, worrying about things to be done or worrying about how their body looks to their partner. Negative sexual messages from the past can leave a woman feeling uncomfortable about being sexually aroused or fearful of losing control.

The truth is, most women will not achieve orgasm through an ordinary genital sexual intercourse but men are often tired after their orgasm. As a result, it may be best to ensure that the woman has an orgasm before the man. She will still be excited afterwards and will enjoy his orgasm.

A word to men

Making love is a slow process for a woman and you may have to start many hours in advance, by fondness, and attention from the man she loves. Women need a much longer foreplay than men. Start by whispering sweet words in her ear and fondling her all over her body, but not in the genital area. Be sensitive, all the time, to what she likes and what she wants to hear.

Do not fondle the genital area until she is ready (use lubricating gel, which you can buy in a drug store). You need to have patience. She may not get an orgasm until after 20 minutes or more. Sometimes, it will not work, even if you do everything right. You need to love her anyway.

When orgasm is not forth-coming:

Women can enjoy sex even if they do not get an orgasm. They enjoy the nearness and intimacy, the fondling and the feeling of love and desire. A request from the man that she must have an orgasm can be a problem for the woman. In spite of this, her husband should try to learn to satisfy her. A woman who has never had an orgasm may be able to learn this by practice. Her chances of succeeding are higher if she has a partner who is responsive to her needs.

(Concluded)

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