I last only two minutes in bed

Dear Yemisi,

I am a young man aged 30. The biggest challenge of my life has to do with my s3x life. I last only two minutes in bed with my partner.

Kindly guide me. I don’t want to take up all these things I read online especially herbal cure.

Thanks for your good works.

Emeka.

• What can we do to prolong our time in bed?

Dear Emeka,

Your decision not to take to all you read online is commendable, so as not to get confused in the process. You know, in a bid to solve a problem, you could add to it if care is not taken.

What you are experiencing is termed premature ejaculation which is not strange to many men in life, going by what urologists have discovered.

According to s3x experts, there are two approaches that you must work on if you want your s3x life to improve. These two approaches are both physical and psychological in nature.

• What can I do to have good erection?

Talking about the physical approach centres on targeting the sensations you feel during s3x while psychological addresses your worry, stress or other mental factors that may induce premature ejaculation.

You have to regulate the way your body responds to physical sensation. Avoiding premature ejaculation is to bring yourself right to the edge of orgasm before stopping all sexual or masturbatory activity until you have excitement under control.

Whenever you feel an orgasm coming on, stop and squeeze right below the head of your penis. Apply firm pressure with your thumb and forefinger and focus the pressure on the urethra, counsels another s3x therapist. According to the expert, this approach can help you last longer in bed by pushing blood out of the penis and eventually decreasing tension.

Though the use of spray is equally suggested to desensitise, but with a warning as the continuous use of the spray can lead to lack of sensation that will impede your staying erect during sexual intercourse.

Aside the above, getting involved in physical exercise before the real act could go a long way in helping you ease tension and getting you relaxed. It is not a do-or-die of assignment, but one that should come naturally.