I have been reading your column for some time and I am convinced that your readers and your counsel will give me direction on how to go about solving my problem with my husband.
I am a 40-year-old woman. I got married some 16 years ago. I am gainfully employed with a good job. But my husband who was working with an oil company lost his job four years ago.
My marriage is blessed with four children who are in school according to their ages. But one snag of my situation is that even when my husband was working he neither paid the house rent nor settled the children’s school fees.
I took these responsibilities up headlong hoping that with time my husband would have a change of attitude. I have kept this to myself for long but as things are now I cannot keep quiet again because I am beginning to feel uncomfortable with this man who has not for once appreciated all I was doing to keep the home going without any intervention from outside.
I have decided to send you this now because I don’t want to die in silence and before my time. Aside from being unappreciative, my husband calls me unprintable names aside raining curses on me for an offence that I cannot point at. In addition to the above, he abuses me sexually as he demands for sex every night even when I am ill. To cap it up which I see as dehumanising is that whenever I hesitate, he would turn it rough and rape me in the presence of the children.
His thirst for sex is insatiable as my husband could go many rounds before the day breaks making me so useless even at work because I hardly have four hours of sleep on a daily basis. I have sat down to see who I could consult in his family, but I have found no one as my husband does not listen to anybody his mother inclusive.
He is so cocky and proud. From his mum’s reaction most times I have been able to deduce that she is aware that I am having tough times with her son as she keeps counselling me to keep enduring his excesses.
Dear Yemisi, my questions that are begging for answers are : For how long will I continue to stomach these untoward behaviour of this man who is more of a beast? Do you think he will ever change his skin? What lesson or moral are we teaching our young teenagers?
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As far as I am concerned I am of the opinion that I have had enough of him. What can I do to retain my sanity before his bestiality takes toll on my performance at work? My problem is one that I cannot discuss with friends.
Kindly bail me out as you as your readers to counsel me as soon as possible.
Moni.
Dear Readers, Moni is expecting to read from your wealth of words of advice for her to retain her sanity in the abusive relationship she has found herself.
What do you think she can do in the meantime? Send your pieces of advice to 08055001741 0r yemaiaofolaju@yahoo.com
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