The trap of honour

Honour is cool and good. I so much love it as a man would love his newly wedded wife. Everyone loves to be honoured. No one hates it. In fact, I consistently speak against those who are devoid of honour. I have no regard for those who do not honour those whose paths cross theirs. Honour is a powerful thing, but it is terribly and obviously lacking in our society today. In fact, the generation coming after mine does not understand the value of honour. They dishonour at will those they are supposed to honour.

What’s honour? Honour does mean to hold in respect; esteem. Also, honour in Greek means to esteem, fix the value, for the value of something belonging to one’s self, valuing by which the price is fixed. When you esteem people lightly, you are actually dishonouring them, but when you esteem them appropriately, you are honouring them. And there is something interesting about honouring people. When you give honour, you get it back! This is a very power and life-changing principle of life. You kiss honour goodbye in your life—when you do not give it to those who deserve it.

Those who are connoisseurs and good at dishonouring people need to stop. For the umpteenth time, you cannot dishonour people and at the same time expect to be honoured. It is not possible. I remember when I started pioneering an irresistible-product in the sphere of public speaking in the city of Lagos many years back, I would invite great men and women to speak for me and after speaking for me, I would honour them by decorating them with awards. Years after, those awards that I gave out in those days were seeds and today, I am harvesting awards into my own storage place of honour. Everywhere I go instinctively, I am always honoured today.

Taking this issue further, honour is bestowed by the value we see in something or should I say someone. When I think of honour I think of how I see someone. My honouring someone or lack thereof shows where my value system lies and how my value system works. That is why one person can value and give honour to something or someone else and the next person has no honour or value for it. In other words, price-less-ness is in the eyes of the beholder!

On the condition that your value system is faulty, you will not be able to honour people or valuable things appropriately. Esau’s value system was completely faulty. And that made him place an inappropriate value on his destiny, dishonouring it. Many people are dishonouring relevant relationships today, because their value system is very faulty. In this year, 2020 and beyond, you would need to have a correct value system. Your success in this new decade depends largely on it!

Honour is the key that unlocks doors to your success. Sometimes, there are moments when you do not feel like honouring certain people, but it is so unfortunate that most of what you desire in life is hidden within certain people that you do not admire. What you desire in life oftentimes is hidden within certain individuals that you do not admire. In simple terms, what you like in life sometimes is never found in people that you like.

The easiest way to inherit someone’s achievement is simply honouring the achiever. What you honour, you attract, what you despise will be kept far away from you. If it is knowledge it will be kept far away from you, if you despise marriage it will be kept far away from you. If it is time or money that you despise, it will be kept far away from you. You cannot attract everything that you despise. If you want to grow old, you have to honour those that have achieved years on earth. Respect those that have already achieved, who have lived longer than you. If you want to get what they have achieved, honour them! Honour is a secret and a key to success!

Also, your uprising or your downfall in life is determined by what you choose to honor. It is not just the people but anything that you choose to honour. There are certain people that when you look at them you think they do not deserve your honour and respect, but they have done something to earn it. Choose to honour people today. Always give honour to whom honour is due.

This is where I am coming: as powerful as honour is, if one is not careful, loving honour for its own sake can become a trap. If you are honour-driven, you are not far from falling into its trap. And falling into its trap is equivalent to walking on banana peels! I remember the story of a very high-valued man, who first rejected an offer, because it was contrary to his values and God’s position on the purpose behind the invitation that was extended to him. Later, he had to compromise his values and value, making God angry with him. At the end of the day, he lost out big time!

Honour can be very overpowering, irresistible and attractive, but the good news is, it is possible to resist it, on the condition that it is going to make you compromise your values and value. It is not wrong to politely reject an honour that will cause you to compromise your values and value. This is very crucial, if you are going to end well as a leader in the midst of the earth. Do not forget what I am sharing with you right now for as long as you live.

Lastly, on the condition that honouring you is going to both distract and demote you, you will do yourself a lot of good to run away from it. It is not healthy to accept every honour that people promise to confer and bestow on you. The major reason some people want to honour you is because they want you to enter into a trap set by them. This is why leaders consistently make use of their instinct. Till I come your way again next week Monday, see you where intuitive-leaders are found!

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