A lot of times, men in this part of the world have been accused of being unromantic. They have been given the “wham bam, thank you ma” sentence when it comes to sex and lovemaking. Unfortunately, most of them are actually guilty of this because of what they do and fail to do to for their women in bed.
Surprisingly, though, majority of these men do not know what they do wrong or how to actually go about making their women happy in bed. Some men don’t even know what to do in bed or how to make a woman feel fulfilled sexually.
Check out some of these mistakes, and make effort at correction …
Sex starts in the bedroom: It is natural that men may turn on like a light when they want or feel like having sex, but for women, arousal does not happen so fast so, it is important that you sex your woman in the right mood before the real act; pave the way, or simply put, set the mood during the day by hugging, kissing, and holding hands. Have some fun together, and show how much you appreciate her.
Safe feeling and security in the relationship are key for a woman to really let loose during sex. A long hug can do more than you think. Hugging for 30 seconds stimulates oxytocin, the hormone in women that creates the sense of connection and trust.
Do not assume you know what she wants: A lot of women fake orgasm and are not sexually fulfilled. They do this to give their men the impression that they do. How then does a man know that his woman is not enjoying sex; that she only fakes orgasm?
All you have to do is communicate, ask her, talk about it, and talk about sex. Sex is not a no-go-area talk. Once you can engage in the act, you should be free to talk about it.
Do not be afraid to ask her questions like, “How does this feel?” “Do you like it?” “Do you feel what I feel?” “Do you want something different?” By doing this, you are trying to find out what you can do better. In other words, you are asking for directions.
Keep it strictly physical: Expand your idea of foreplay. Most men focus on physical stimulation and often ignore mental stimulation. While men get stirred or are aroused by what they see, women fantasise a lot during sex as part of their arousal process. Be a part of this process with your partner. Share a fantasy or a sexy memory so as to make the sexual fulfillment mutual.
Expect intercourse to give her an orgasm: For most women, intercourse alone won’t do the trick. This is probably because most sex positions do not directly stimulate the clitoris. Of course, there are other ways to give your woman pleasure. Do you know that women orgasm come much more consistently from oral sex? Also, try sex with the woman on top, and see if this will satisfy both of you. When it comes to sex and sexual issues, try and overcome reservations.
To help her hit the high note when you do have sex, take time to get her going before you make your entrance. The closer women are when they start intercourse, the more likely they are to have an orgasm.
Seduction: Women like to be seduced. Seduction is as important as, or sometimes more important than, the actual act. It helps to know what kind of turn-on your partner likes, whether it’s oral, visual, or mental. For example does she like it when you talk dirty over the phone or text? Trace your finger slowly up her chest? Flirt with her during the day? Please, try and learn her likes, it helps
Also, if you like what you see, tell her just that, let a woman know how desirable she is to you. Women enjoy and appreciate compliments.