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O NE of the many skills needed to enjoy great sex in marriage is kissing. As a needful prelude to the act of sex, kissing has a magic wand that brings intoxication for sex. So, if you don’t want to be caught in the web of sex , kissing must be avoided like a plague. […]

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O NE of the many skills needed to enjoy great sex in marriage is kissing. As a needful prelude to the act of sex, kissing has a magic wand that brings intoxication for sex. So, if you don’t want to be caught in the web of sex , kissing must be avoided like a plague. It can be likened to the fact that anyone who does not want to get pregnant, must also not engage in sex. So, great sex in marriage is consequent on kissing skill.

That is why I am presenting this write up, which is an extract from a write up on the Internet. I have also edited it for the purpose of married couples.

Scientifically proven, a good kiss is like a drug. With cranial nerves this has to do with the part of the skull that embraces the brain) in action during an awesome kiss, the brain too plays a role to assemble every vital detail about the other person, one is provided with the sync, and feels high and rejuvenated. But as you may know, not every kisser gives you an experience so good that you are left awed and craving. Only a good kisser knows how to kiss well enough, whether it’s just brushing of the cheeks or a lip to lip kiss, the fact remains that there are certain foolproof ways tokiss that you must know in order to make kissing worthwhile.

Below are some of such romantic, unforgettable tips ofkissing that would help you connect, communicate and make your partner yearn for you every other moment.

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Tip1: Kiss is more than just lips doing the business

The best kiss doesn’t happen with just lips coming together. A good kisser uses hands to cup the partner’s face or run it down the spine to make the experience unforgettable.

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Tip2: Set the stage

Well, less is more! So, a good kisser begins gently before sinking into a passionate kiss. One needs to play cool and set the stage: sensuous talks, dim lights and it’s all sorted.

  • Keep calm & balm

A super pillowy feel comes with a good balm. And never in the history have best kisses ever happened with a dry, flaky lip. Since, not every time shall your lips be kissably soft, keep the lip balm handy!

 

Tip3: know the rhythm

Keep your head moving like a continuous slow, wave. Follow each other’s lead and find a flow that works for both of you so that you’re both on the same page.

  • Mind your tongue

Since, there are different ways of kissing, you need to be sure about the next move. Your tongue need not always be in action and when it is, keep it in moderation without using it for a facial wash, or choke your spouse.

 

Tip 4: Make it unpredictable, full of surprises. Understand your partner’s kissing style and keep them on the toes by trying different kissing techniques in one go. Go with the flow but make sure you are not very predictable (read: boring) in your act.

 

Tip5: Be multifacted

There are different types of kisses. Whether it’s a hot kiss or a I-care-for-you kiss, each one has a story. Make sure you tell your story right by following a certain momentum, and give your feelings a beautiful outlet. That is, speak with your kiss.

 

Tip6: Moan

Do not shy away from letting out those little squeaks of satisfaction. They will act as a great turn on and help your partner give more into the moment. Moaning is a push to give more.

Finally, appreciate your Partner by giving him/her a positive feedback so that your partner feels good after the kiss. And the better your partner feels about it, the more they will look forward to kissing you. So, pay attention to learning about how bestkissing can be executed to achieve the desired end result- great sex.

Happy Kissing, folks!

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I  have established in this column, the fact that great sex is dependent on knowing the necessary skills. A married couple that will enjoy great sex must master the necessary skills for it. Like it was stated last week, the ancient method of sex style of “rise and sink” in the missionary position will not […]

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I  have established in this column, the fact that great sex is dependent on knowing the necessary skills. A married couple that will enjoy great sex must master the necessary skills for it. Like it was stated last week, the ancient method of sex style of “rise and sink” in the missionary position will not suffice in this dispensation.

Hence, the consideration given to sex styles skill in that writes up.

Today, the skill I want us to look at is foreplay. This is one that is largely responsible for orgasm in women, which is the height of sexual act a woman can attain. Any husband, who does not know this skill to take his wife to this zenith of sexual satisfaction, is at a risk of either pressurising her into infidelity, or putting her through emotional trauma.

Foreplay is a skill every husband must master for great sex in the marriage. Foreplay is required as a result of the differences in body make up of husband and wife, with reference to sexual responses. While the husband response is instantaneous, like that of the helicopter, needing no time to take off for sex, the wife, on the other hand needs time, like the aeroplane, in her sexual response.

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Thus, she needs time to allow her gather momentum, for her to get into the act of sex. So, the husband must master how to achieve this, through foreplay, which involves the following:

* Put her in mood by preparing her mind for it through coded messages or soft touches. This will free her mind, body and soul before going to bed, to tune her up for sex.

*know the parts of her body that moves and turns her on, so as to concentrate your touch play on them perfectly well.

*Husband should do more of sucking the breast and licking the fingers.

* Husband should tickle the nipple, clitoris, neck, belly and earlobes; he can start by using his tongue to gently massage the breast.

*He should also suck nipple while   licking the neck and earlobes at intervals.

*The wife should also try riding him while he touches the breast, as this will stimulate the hormones responsible for orgasm.

It’s all these that make for great sex, leading to orgasm, especially for the wife, when you eventually get into the act.

When a husband is able to master the skill of foreplay, great sex will be inevitable in the marriage.

So, every husband should go all out to master this in other to sexually secure the marriage.

The ancient method of pouncing on one’s wife anytime, for sex does not make for great sex.

In fact, it is tantamount to an abuse of the wife, since she mostly will not be properly lubricated in the act.

This method of the husband wanting sex, and wanting it now, without recourse to foreplay skill, is one reason why wives feign headaches, body pains, and stomach upsets and the like.

Or is it not better to feign pains, and stay painless, rather than to be subject to pains arising from sex act.?

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One of the key focus in the next level sex discuss is sexual skills. One of such skills is sex positions. Great sex  must be skillful. A lot of couples don’t pay attention to the skills involved in sex. All they know is just to rise and sink, using the missionary sex style. This will […]

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One of the key focus in the next level sex discuss is sexual skills. One of such skills is sex positions. Great sex  must be skillful. A lot of couples don’t pay attention to the skills involved in sex. All they know is just to rise and sink, using the missionary sex style. This will not suffice in this age. Couples must begin to explore various sex styles that offer maximum satisfaction in the act of sex. This will go a long way to bring down the rate of infidelity and divorce today. Or is it not a known fact that many married people are divorcing due lack of sexual satisfaction. Like one lady put it, “my husband doesn’t know how to sex.”

The following are some of the best sex styles available for couples’ enjoyment, as a guide to discovering others.

 

Husband on top/ Missionary position

This is the most commonly used sex position of all ages. It’s like the starter in the sex experience of humanity. Even, the novice in the game will most likely be familiar with this style. According to Tim and Beverly laHaye, “our research indicates that 91% of couples use the man above position all of the time, or most of the time.‘’

 

Wife on top position

This position puts the wife in the driver’s seat which allows the husband to relax so as to last longer in the act. This style gives the wife the advantage of being in control and setting the pace for having the greatest pleasure in bed. A big frame husband with a small frame wife should find this position most convenient.

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C.A.T. position

C.A.T stands for Coital Adjusted Technique. This is basically a face to face position just like in the missionary position. The difference between the two positions is that the man shifts higher here in such a way that his shoulder and head are about six inches higher up the bed than in the missionary position. In this position, the man does not penetrate her, but the stem or root of the manhood is pulled hard against the clitoris so as to produce great sensations in that all important tiny organ.

 

Reverse Cow Girl position

This is simply a reverse variation of the woman on top position. The man lies on his back,while the woman faces the other way and sits on his manhood. Then in her own time she gradually lowers herself so that with his manhood inside her, her back is lying fully outstretched on the front of his body.

 

Pinner/Hold down position

The woman lies flat on her front and the man lies faces down on top of her. He then penetrates her from behind

 

Spoon position

This is the position where the woman lies on her side and the man lies curled up round her bottom{like spoons in a drawer} and penetrates her from behind.

 

Doggie position

This is another great rear entry position that allows him to be in control of actions, allowing him to dictate the pace that best suits him. The rear entry here can be while she is kneeling on the bed, or holding the edge of the bed from any side , or it can be on the floor if clean enough.

 

Stand Up position

This standing position is one that is suitable for that “I must have you now’’ sex that will make him feel irresistible. Whether it is standing against the wall, or settee or kitchen table, it’s a perfect one for a spontaneous quickie.

 

Husband seated/face to face lapping position

In this position, the husband sits on a chair or low couch, the wife sits on his lap face to face, lowering herself on his manhood at her pace, especially if she wants to avoid painful entry.

 

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Couples should take sex to the next level https://tribuneonlineng.com/couples-should-take-sex-to-the-next-level/ Sat, 26 Oct 2019 02:58:12 +0000 https://tribuneonlineng.com/?p=258101 Tribune Online
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I T is no longer news that sex in marriage is a thing of great importance. Every one agrees that sex is the neck on which marriage rotates, or is controlled. Sex is one of the reasons for which the marriage institution is in place.So, sex is expected to be a thing of great prominence […]

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I T is no longer news that sex in marriage is a thing of great importance. Every one agrees that sex is the neck on which marriage rotates, or is controlled. Sex is one of the reasons for which the marriage institution is in place.So, sex is expected to be a thing of great prominence in marriage.

However, issues of infidelity and rape involving married people have cast a shadow on the effectiveness of marriage in providing sexual satisfaction for the married. This becomes more critical when men in positions of power, now use same to secure sex gratification, from willing and unwilling victims.  No thanks to the recent scandalous sex for marks, involving lectures in our universities. One can only imagine why these married men, throwhonour and caution to the wind, by stooping so low to bring shame to their highly exalted offices, ridiculing their profession, and religious calling, when such men turn out to be ofclergy personality, for what they sleep and wake up with in their marriage.

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To my curious mind, I feel that these incidents are deeply rooted in the marriage setting, and the solution lies primarily there, as well. Couples should take the sex act in the marriage to the next level, where satisfaction is given adequate attention, as a matter of urgency and priority. While sex may not be completely absent, it may not be easily accessible, or inadequate, or unpleasurable. These issues are undeniable due to what we have been witnessing as marriage counselors. By experience, therefore, sexual satisfaction in many marriages, falls short of what can be termed, the next level sex.

Next level sex, which is targeted at maximum sexual satisfaction, involves the following, among others things:

  • Next level sex must be available just for the asking. No coming up with wierd sexual behaviour of headache, backache,or non existing mensuration. Let sex in your marriage be if my spouse want it now, it must be available
  • Next level sex must be for the mutual satisfaction of the couple. There is no using your spouse for your own selfish enjoyment. You don’t have sex only on your own terms: when you want it, where and how you want it, without consideration for your spouse’s desire.
  • Next level sex just must be skillful. A lot of Couples don’t pay attention to the skills involved in sex. All they know is just to rise and sink, using the missionary sex style. Next level sex is way beyond that. Couples must step up their sex game to satisfy themselves, and save their families from the embarrassing scenario of being caught in sex scandal.

I strongly believe that if couples do all to satisfy themselves in the marriage, even the randy rambo ones could also be tamed. After all, Lions and other wild animals are being tamed, with what they enjoy feeding on. Sex styles, information, and free expression of sexual needs and preference at home are necessary for a great marriage. So, let the married do the needful.

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Enjoying great marriage through i.T.T.Concept https://tribuneonlineng.com/enjoying-great-marriage-through-i-t-t-concept/ Sat, 12 Oct 2019 08:00:31 +0000 https://tribuneonlineng.com/?p=253263 Tribune Online
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ONE major factor in marriage is communication. A lot of couples are not communicating in the marriage. Rather, they just get along in their relationship. A lot had been written on the communication issue in marriage earlier in this column. However, I want to revisit the issue today because it is still a strong factor […]

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ONE major factor in marriage is communication. A lot of couples are not communicating in the marriage. Rather, they just get along in their relationship. A lot had been written on the communication issue in marriage earlier in this column. However, I want to revisit the issue today because it is still a strong factor in ensuring that couples enjoy a great marriage. Communication is like a recurring decimal in marriage. It is the basis of all human relationships, without which, such relationships will not be successful..

This is the reason why I am presenting the I.T.T. angle of communication in order to move us to the next level in our marital communication.

  1. T. T. means Intimate Talking Time. This is a time set aside by a couple to share ideas about themselves and the issues relating to their marriage. It should be a consistent affairs for the couple to rub minds together for the progress of the family. This is supposed to reduce the conflict areas in the marriage.

Advocates of the concept of Intimate Talking Time are targeting to mitigate the noticeable flaws in marital communication. These include the following:

No communication flaw, dealing with a situation whereby a couple does not have a time to discuss the affairs in the marriage. Rather, one partner  just calls the shots, for the other to comply. In most cases, the one calling the shots is the husband, who pays the bills, and in line with the popular saying,  “he who pays the Piper, dictates the tune”, is the rule of the game here. So, the question of two heads are better than one, does not apply here. Since it takes two to tango, there is a flaw in this form of communication.

Partial communication flaw, which is a situation where a couple discusses only some issues, while other issues are left for one party, usually the husband, to rule over. Such issues include purchase of landed property, car, and holiday sites. Some of these may sound absurd to the intelligent ears, but the truth is that such reality exists. Under Intimate Talking Time, this flaw is also dealt with, since couples have no hold back on any issue.

Reaction communication flaw deals with a couple reacting based on what each other does in the marriage. It is waiting to see what one party does for the other to respond. So, what the wife does is based on what the husband does. If he acts angrily, the wife responds in the same manner. If he keeps malice, she also gives him the silent treatment. Under Intimacy Talking Time, the couple thrases out their differences amicably. Rather than arguing, each party has a share of the floor,in discussing the issues at stake.

With the concept of Intimate Talking Time, couples are assured of a great marriage void of incessant conflicts, which time together alone, will help them to resolve in the atmosphere of peace and understanding, void of rancour. Couples who have embraced  this concept of Intimate Talking Time have good stories of great marriage to tell. I hereby recommend the concept to couples who desire a great marriage.

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Seven things men should do to increase performance https://tribuneonlineng.com/seven-things-men-should-do-to-increase-performance/ Sat, 05 Oct 2019 00:13:03 +0000 https://tribuneonlineng.com/?p=250985 Tribune Online
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T HE role of sex in a relationship or marriage cannot be overemphasised as researchers have proven that the reason for most broken marriages revolves around the sex life of the couple. It is an undisputed fact that it is not every problem that money can solve especially when it comes to issues of the […]

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T HE role of sex in a relationship or marriage cannot be overemphasised as researchers have proven that the reason for most broken marriages revolves around the sex life of the couple.

It is an undisputed fact that it is not every problem that money can solve especially when it comes to issues of the heart and emotions.

A man who understands the sexual needs of his wife is like a demi-god to her because the sky is their limit whenever they indulge in the act. Sex is meant to be pleasurable and enjoyable between a couple.

Below are six tips to help improve your sex life tonight:

 

  1. Make use of technology: If you want to keep her in the mood for sex later that night while you’re stuck at the office? Use your cell phone or e-mail. Send her sexy messages throughout the day.

 

  1. Foreplay: Regardless of how you get revved up for better sex, don’t skip foreplay no matter how long you have been together as a couple. Foreplay contributes greatly to stronger orgasms and improved sex. It helps prepare your autonomic nervous system to increase sensitivity, excitement, and strength of orgasm. Your patience and attentiveness will pay dividends.

 

  1. Think like a woman: To think like a woman in bed, you don’t have to be one. All you need do is give attention to some of her most neglected areas, like her neck, her feet, her inner thighs. Tease her mercilessly. Make her want it. You will be surprised what a build-up it will bring.

 

  1. Let her take the lead: Men so often take the lead in bed. Sometimes, the key to better sex is letting her be in charge. Don’t be afraid to let your mate lead. Allow your mate to initiate sexual pleasure on occasions, as well as taking the top position.

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  1. Change the location: Another way to add variety and improve sex life is to try someplace new. Do it in different places to experience a different energy. Take it outdoors if you are overwhelmed with technology and want to get back your natural rhythm.

 

  1. Focus on relaxation: Men like to get excited for better sex, but women are more likely to get in the mood through relaxation. Wash her hair in the shower or massage her scalp to relax her. A woman needs to be relaxed before she is ready to receive.

 

  1. Do your household chores: If you want to put your wife in the mood for better sex, help around with the housework. The best foreplay happens outside the bedroom. By helping with chores and errands, you make them feel valued.

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A former governor of Oyo State and Osi Olubadan of Ibadanland, Senator Rashidi Ladoja, was 75 years on September 25. He shares his growing up experience, his disappointments with the country Nigeria after 59 years of independence, how he and his friend, Zed Abule floated Crystal Bank which changed to Standard Trust Bank, which is […]

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A former governor of Oyo State and Osi Olubadan of Ibadanland, Senator Rashidi Ladoja, was 75 years on September 25. He shares his growing up experience, his disappointments with the country Nigeria after 59 years of independence, how he and his friend, Zed Abule floated Crystal Bank which changed to Standard Trust Bank, which is now a key component of United Bank for Africa (UBA), how Total Nigeria gave him employment letter four months before his graduation from the and the untold story of his impeachment as governor, among others, with DARE ADEKANMBI.

 

HOW eventful has been your 75 years on earth?

There are successes and failures. There are triumphs and disappointments. And in the long run, I will say that I’m grateful to God that I can claim more triumphs than disappointments. When you get a stage in life, you ask yourself what is important, then it is not your successes and triumphs that are important, but are you leaving the world better than you met it. And where is my world? My world is here. My world is Ibadan. My world is Oyo State. My world is Nigeria and my world is Africa, before I now talk about the other world. Am I leaving this world better than I met it? That is why I said there have been triumphs and disappointments.

 

Talking about success and failures, most Nigerians only know Ladoja, the politician. When you mention successes and failures, they will measure them in terms of successes and disappointments in politics. As a businessman, did you experience disappointments?

Of course, there are disappointments because you expect certain things to go this way, but due to factors that are not within your control, either a change in policy, you meet failures; you think that you should go this way, somebody is saying you should go another way and you have no choice but to go that way. So, those are the things that you face that can bring disappointments.

 

Could you share some examples?

By now, I think Nigeria should be self-sufficient in food production. That is the most important thing to any human being after air and water and after that one comes shelter. But where are we? Are we self-sufficient? I am not even talking about the quality of food but availability of it. I mean Nigerians are hungry today. When we were young and we killed a chicken in the house, it lasted us about three days — father, wife and children — because what goes to the children are the legs and the head. But nowadays, your children have choices. They want the drumstick and there are only two in a chicken, so you can see if I want to rate from my own side, I will say yes, I am living better than I was living when I was young. If you look at it from the angle that Nigeria has got this vast land and we cannot exploit it correctly, that is a disappointment. You have a Nigeria that has petroleum, but cannot refine what it will use, with all the engineers that we have trained.  It is a disappointment. Nowadays, I hear the brain drain among the doctors is very high, which means we are training them for the world and not our own use. People still suffer from diseases and can’t access quality medical care, maybe some of us can afford it. You set up an objective, you cannot achieve it and not because you are not competent or you do not know what to do but in most cases, due to factors that are beyond your control. These are all disappointments.

Disappointments about Nigeria and Africa are worse than I can think. But for me, I can say yes, practically, I can live anywhere in the world, but this is my home. This is where I was born. This is where I grew up and this is where I will die. So, I like leaving it better than I met it. People will start telling you life expectancy is higher now that diseases are being cured. But are we the ones that contributed to those breakthroughs? I remember very well there was a time small pox was very high and I was just entering primary school then, when they started giving us number, that is, vaccination and a lot of parents came to take their children from school because they said they were writing number on their head whereas that was not true, just some scratches and that has helped a lot of us in disease prevention. We are still looking for solution to malaria that is endemic and most of the malaria drugs are not even produced in Nigeria. Of course, we take agbo, that is herbs, but have we refined it to the level that we can say we are comfortable with it? Do we know the right dosage? These are all the disappointments that we face, starting from the fact that we cannot even feed ourselves in a vast land. I can say I feed myself though because I plant my rice. I eat Ofada rice. I am even doing experiment with guinea fowl. I rear it, but that is not sufficient. That is why I said I am not going to talk about my own growth. People will say Ladoja, you have grown. Your father was just a mere councilor, you went on to become a senator and then a governor. So you are successful. But the more you think, the more you grow, the more you are disappointed, because you find out you are not where you should be. It is not your own personal achievement that is important, but your collective achievement as a group, that is what is important. Those are parts of the disappointment. And at times, you know there are solutions and you are capable of bringing those solutions, like I was telling someone, a serious government can solve the issue of vegetable oil within two years without closing the borders. You tell soldiers to close the borders because people are bringing in rice and oil. I told you I plant my Ofada rice which I’m told is more expensive than the imported rice. This means we can do more, but everything is interwoven. I told somebody when we were young, like the theme of my campaign in 2003, when we were young, my father was not eating groundnut oil. He was eating melon oil and it was sufficient. You can plant melon two times a year. So, if you have the land and serious people to cultivate it, you can process it and overcome the challenge. Nigeria is a complex country where you don’t know where the next arrow is coming from.

 

At what point in your career and age did you make a breakthrough that you know you have arrived business wise?

Breakthrough is not a one day thing. It comes gradually and I always tell people that my prayers have always been God, when opportunities are passing, give me the grace to be able to identify them and also provide me with the wherewithal to hold them. So, when opportunities are passing, if you are able to identify and you have the wherewithal to hold them, then you say you have a breakthrough. I have been a very lucky person virtually all my life because of the things that I got that just came to me. I didn’t struggle for them. After my secondary school at Ibadan Boys High school, I went to Mount Olivet Heights, I was a scholarship student, maybe my parents would not have been able to afford it. After that one, I went to Belgium and even the story of my going to Belgium [University of Liege] shows that there is the hand of God in everything that you do. I didn’t plan to go to Belgium. I didn’t even know where Belgium was; my focus was America, Great Britain and Australia where they speak English. The only thing I knew about Belgium then was that it colonised Congo. So, those are the things but as I said, it doesn’t come in one day. Opportunities are passing and if you see them, you thank God for making it possible for you to see and to take them.

 

At what age did you build your first house?

Building houses is not an achievement. I didn’t look at it as a challenge. I was at Total [Nigeria], I got employment with Total in April when I was going to graduate in July in 1972. I was in my final year in Belgium and was just looking for a place where I could get practical experience. Then I wrote to Total in Belgium, but Total France wrote me to come because they were looking for someone in Nigeria. So, I had serious interviews and they made offers that I rejected, but I took the third offer. So, you can see that I was lucky and though I was on scholarship and it covered my ticket, they paid my airfare home. I wasn’t looking for job but I got it and I even went to Munich Olympics after I finished school in July before coming home, though my letter of employment was dated April. I came back and assumed duty at Total. My first day at Total was even a disappointment about Nigeria. The receptionist looked at me, told me to sit down just because I was wearing jeans and T-shirt. He was allowing others he felt were well dressed to go in while I sat down. Later, he reluctantly allowed me to fill in the visitor’s note and the boss, Mr Holtz, jumped out immediately he saw my name and took me to the Managing Director. I was told to start work that day, though I even took two weeks to go and see my parents. The receptionist, Mr Akande, was shocked when he saw the treatment from Mr Holtz who was supposed to be my superior. He came to apologise  that he did so because he didn’t know me and I told him he didn’t have to know me. I told him anybody that came to that office should be given the respect of a human being. And that is what we have in Nigeria. People look at you and the clothes you wear and they judge you. They look at the car you ride in or whether you don’t have a car and judge you. Everybody should be treated as a human being

 

For how long were you in Total?

I was there from 1972 to 1985.

 

Why did you leave?

I resigned

 

Why?

You see, that’s why I said when opportunities are passing, God should give me the grace to identify them. I started as Assistant Commercial Manager/Products Engineer. I was the one who launched the Total gas. I was in charge of gas and some other special products and my MD was one of the people who interviewed me in Paris. So, we already know each other. As I said I was very lucky, it was when I got there that I knew that most of the decisions were taken not at meetings but at informal gatherings. So, when we closed, we would go to the MD’s office to have coffee before going home. We closed at four. So those of us that speak French would go to his office to have coffee. I was the only young man among them. Most of the company policies were enunciated at that meeting. Most of the things that were happening were done at that meeting. I was already a high flyer. I left commercial department because I was causing trouble there. When we acquired new customers, the operations department was not catering for them. I got to the office one day to learn I was transferred to the operation department as Supply Manager, because they felt I have identified that the problem is how to supply customers. When I got there, all the letters [of complaints] I had written, they put them in a file and they handed it over to me as letters received from commercial department and I was told to reply the letters. So, I replied that the memo was receiving attention and they would get a reply soon. So, I got to operation department and the Assistant Manager was Engineer Teju Oyeleye who was a former General Manager at WNTV/WNBC. He was being trained to take over from one Mr Pogson. That is, how I got into that place and I was doing my job, getting promoted.

It happened that our company, Total, I was a in charge of Marketers Re-planning Commission. So we were in charge of bringing products from Port Harcourt to Lagos and so on. So, along the line, some Norwegians said they were looking for a charter to deliver bitumen and they told us as the coordinator for the industry. So, we negotiated and I found out that the terms were better than what we had before. Later, they said “why are you people chartering vessels when you could build,” that they were doing it for Indonesia. I said let’s see your proposal and they said we could get one that would do the work of three and buy it over a period of 10 years. So, I presented it to Total, but the company said no, that they were in Nigeria to sell oil, not to run ship, that they were only interested in charter, not in buying and the money the people were asking for purchase over 10 years was less than what we pay on charter.

I had a friend then who was also in shipping, Zeb Abule, I told him and he said “yes, let’s take it. We later became partners and floated Crystal Bank together that became Standard Trust Bank, then UBA. That’s why I said there are some special opportunities and you should pray for God to give you the grace to identify them. So, we provided the half a million dollars these people wanted but later he said he wasn’t going to continue, that when I have the half a million dollars, I should return it to him. So, we signed a contract of five years and after five years, the vessel automatically became my own. So, I became a ship owner.

 

At that time, you have not resigned from Total?

Yes, because I was in partnership with Abule. The industry approved it, so that is a breakthrough. And from there, other things followed. I told you we were the promoters of Crystal Bank. Five million naira was the capital required then from myself and Zeb. I had a problem in Lagos, he had a problem in Port Harcourt; I said look at this useless IBWA, I transferred money and there were issues. He said look at this useless BCCI, they have been holding my money, they said they haven’t got approval from Central Bank. So, we decided to float a bank and that we would get a consultant to write feasibility study for us. He wrote for us and we had a technical agreement subject to conditions; nobody should have more than five per cent and it must go to at least 20 states. That was where we got stuck, to get people from other states. Many people were not ready. In fact, Victor Daniel was one of the people we tried to bring in. So, Zeb became a lawyer. He went to Buckingham to study. At the end, we brought people in to be our shareholders. But the capital belonged to two of us. That was how Crystal Bank started, that when we started making money, they will return our money to us. The CBN agreed and that’s how we started.

 

Can you tell us your defining moment in politics?

That’s another opportunity, you see, I was not interested in politics. I had already branched out into other things. I used to come to Ibadan at weekends just to know what was happening. I wasn’t a socialite, but I knew Dr Dejo Raimi through my cousin. We used to go there and he was very generous to us. If you were sick, he would give you medicine, you would not pay and he would still entertain you. One day, we were talking and, it was during the time of SDP and NRC, he said “Rashidi, there are many people who were jostling to be governors: Lam Adesina, Lere Adesina, Robert Koleoso and so many contenders from Ibadan. I said I have my candidate and he is Professor Wande Abimbola and he said “no, he cannot be because he won’t go there.” He said “no, I want you to support Ishola,” I asked who was he and what was he doing because I do not believe that someone should make politics his sole profession. He said he was a land surveyor who was at that time serving at Akinyele Local Government Area of the state and wasn’t even taking salary. So, he phoned him and he came and we started talking and I found out that he was somebody who could be a very good governor because he was committed to the goodness of the people. He told me what he needed and I decided to help and I gave him dates for subsequent contributions. He later told me he couldn’t believe it that someone wearing Ankara could bankroll the project and I begged him that it shouldn’t go beyond the three of us, that I would not bring any money by myself but that my personal assistant would be coming to deliver the money. I promised him that he would get money on Saturday because I was travelling on Sunday. But on Friday, he sent someone to come and collect money and I said I did not promise him anything. I told Dr Raimi that it was not good because I said the issue should not go beyond the three of us. Why should he send someone to me? God made it possible.

Before then, when they were forming the party, Professor Olunloyo and Dr Adebisi came to me and asked me if I was interested in politics and I said “over my dead body.” I didn’t know I was going to get entangled in it. So, when the time of the run off came, it was smooth. Ishola secured the ticket. Some offers came, I remembered a traditional ruler offered N5m [to bankroll the election], but he put string on it that certain contracts would be executed by him. Ishola came to consult me because I gave him my house at Kunle Abass to use as a hideout. I told him I don’t know if he needed help, but if I were him, I would not tie myself to any conditions because then you won’t be free but tell them they own the party and if they supported you, you would give them a fair chance. So, instead of the N5m, they gave him only N250,000. I told him to take it to the party office and inform them this was what was given to him. So, by the grace of God, Ishola won. The result was on Sunday, by 7.00am on Monday, they were already in my house in Lagos. Dr Raimi and Ishola, to thank me for my support and they asked me, “what do you want in this government?” I told them they voted for you. Why would I want anything in your government? They asked if I didn’t want to choose any commissioner. I said who were they going to report to, you or me? I said “no, go and do what you think is right. I don’t want anybody to say you are not the one who chose me, so and so person choose me. Choose those you think you can work with and can deliver for you.” “The only thing I am going to beg you for is to create hope by making sure people can send their children to school. They can get transport quickly because if they can get transport quickly, they won’t hate the privileged, but will have hope that their children can become something in life too.” So those who have something can live well and at that time my first wife also died. He came to commiserate with me and I asked him to use his position to eradicate guinea worm. And he said, “Why should it be Jimmy Carter that will be talking about eradicating guinea worm in Nigeria?”

On the eve of the inauguration, they all came to my house. It was there they were typing their speech and reading to us and we were making inputs. In fact, he slept in our house and ran home in the morning to change his dress and he said we were going to follow him to take over the government house from Adisa [Abdulkareem, the Military Administrator in the state then]. So, we followed him and also followed him to the stadium. But that night, maybe in appreciation of Dr Raimi’s contributions, he asked me, “Wolu, if I make Dr Raimi the SSG. What do you think?  I said what is SSG and he said Secretary to the State Government. And I said “but Dr Raimi is a civil servant.” I asked him if he could do it, he said yes, that it was the prayer of any civil servant because at that time, we had Abinusawa, who was the Deputy Governor as well as Head of Service to Adisa. So, I said okay, “if you think that you can do it, mind you, this is the boss, you are not co-directors and he has the last say on what happens in government.” So, he said yes, it was okay by him. Then, Ishola said he would announce the appointment at the stadium. I said no. He said he wanted to do so because there was too much pressure on him. So there was a lunch in the afternoon and we were all there. Ishola just announced that he appointed Dr Raimi as the SSG.

Then I came because the 40 days prayer for my wife coincided with the one week of their inauguration, so they came, in fact, he invited [Sir Michael] Otedola, the governor of Lagos then to my house. They asked me to come to Ibadan. I said why, because they thought I was going to be sad and they wanted me to live well again. So, I came and it was the time they were filling the post of commissioners and they were asking me who will be this commissioner for this or that. So, Dr Raimi and I were just picking names. The governor would mention a name, I would say why and after his arguments to support, I would pick the person. I was picking names without knowing them; that was how they formed their cabinet and I went back to my business. In fact, the day I went to see them in their office, I sat down for nearly 30 minutes before somebody identified me because they didn’t take my form in to the governor.  That was when I knew once you get to power, most of the people that knew you would not be able to reach you easily again because the security people they gave them are not known to them. You would fill in the forms and they would take it inside when they like. So, I was sitting in the waiting room when somebody just said “Mr Ladoja,” I said yes sir.  “Does oga know you are here?” I said “who is oga? He said “Governor Ishola. I said he didn’t know but I have filled in the form.” He said “abeg come.” So, he just took me and told them “you don’t know what you are doing, Ishola would not have been n office if not for this man.” That was not my intention. I just greeted them, passed through Dr Raimi’s office and he accompanied me to Ishola. We chatted and they said I didn’t come to see them again. I said because “you are now elehas,” but I promised them I would come. So, one day, when I bought my Volvo, I drove it to the Government House because I told them I was coming to see them. I told them I came to show them my new car and since they were not going out again, they checked it out and we drove it round town.

So I agreed [to take a shot at politics] and that was my unmaking and the beginning of my journey. And immediately, he picked his phone to call someone and said, Baba, “Rashidi ti gba o,” meaning Rashidi had accepted and they have been talking about it, the man said he wanted to speak with me, he did and he prayed for me. That was Baba [Lamidi] Adedibu. He just told me to help fill in the form and I could go thereafter, that they would do all the work. So, I said no problem and when I got home, I called my cousin, Prince Tunji Adeoye, I told him this was the decision that I have taken, he said no problem. He said we needed to visit all the leaders starting from those that contested against Ishola.

On the day of the primary, they were persuading Soji Adejumo to step down and go for House of Representatives, he said no. So that day, you know I was a novice, I just went to sleep. I was told he camped the delegates. I got there late and Soji was already there and he had suggested Lam Adesina as chairman of the congress. I said it was alright, so we went to the primary at the Olubadan Stadium. Soji was to the left, I was right, Dr Olaifa was in the middle. Olaifa had nobody queuing up behind him, Lam was the chairman, later, Lam told me when we started, we were both at 50-50 until it was the turn of the delegates from Ibadan councils, instead of calling Ibadan North separate, he just called Ibadan South-East and I saw Bankole in his jeans and face cap and all of them just followed him. These were the delegates Soji camped. I saw him sweating and using his white handkerchief to wipe his face; then they called Ibadan South-West which was Adedibu’s territory, only two or three didn’t vote for me and in Ibadan North, we had more than 80 per cent of the votes, there was this  Alhaji who was Lai Balogun’s person in that zone. And my line already reached the end of the field. I had two and a half lines whereas Soji didn’t manage to have more than half of the line.

 

From what you have said, you were able to manage Baba Adedibu when he wanted to create problems for you when you started politics, but when you became governor, you couldn’t manage him and he championed your impeachment.

I could manage him.

 

So what now happened?

I managed him. Everybody knew that between me and Baba, we had a sort of good rapport. If Baba had views on six issues and I came and I was able to take Baba out of the groove, by the time he came back, Baba might drop the five for me. That was how close we were. And Baba also knew that I didn’t spare any effort in doing things and in looking after his interest. But when the election was going on, during the campaign, the major crisis we had was that the popular opinion was that Ladoja is good, but will Adedibu allow him work? Remember Ishola’s time, that was the noise and I used to say, look, I am a father, I am a grandfather, I have built my life, if I am elected, the buck stops on my table. So, when we came in, you see even if Baba was good, what about the people that surrounded Baba? The people on the day of inauguration, they went to pull down [Chief Obafemi] Awolowo’s statue in front of Government House, that was the first crisis we had. They took it to Baba’s place, the same day, there was a contractor- financed road in Bodija, and the agreement was that the contractor would collect toll until his money was paid before he would turn it over to government. Baba’s boys said government that put the contractor there had gone and they were now in charge, then, some of Baba’s boys were going to Gbagi to interfere and be collecting protection fees from the market people and in some cases, when they refused to pay, they broke into their shops and were allocating spaces on the road for people to be putting containers and destroying the master plan of the place and in some cases, some of Baba’s boys would go to the forestry and arrest people and collect money from them. At times, they harassed and imprisoned people in their homes. No sane government would sit down and allow such things. So, that was where we started having issues because most of Baba’s boys believed that they were in government, therefore there was no law. So, it was not that I didn’t manage Baba. You see, when Baba sat down and people surrounding him start putting stories to him, I know that Baba could talk but he could not disturb government’s work and it was the same Baba that would encourage them. So Baba just capitalised on this. I have said it many times that 13 of Baba and [Alao] Akala couldn’t have impeached me. I knew that democracy was a game of competition, a game that has got rules, the rule of impeachment is that you must have two thirds of the house and I knew there was no way I could have less than one third. It opened the way for selfish people who just wanted money and there were so many negotiations, there was one that actually made the impeachment possible. It was Obasanjo’s third term. Obasanjo knew there was no way I would be around and the House of Assembly would pass an amendment to the constitution allowing a third term. So, that is it. That’s why Ladoja had to go. And also made a mistake, maybe it was a mistake, maybe it wasn’t, I knew Obasanjo before I became governor, I knew him when he was not the Head of State, that was after he left government, I used to visit him in Ota after he left government and we were very close. So, when I was hearing about third term, I told Baba that I’m hearing about this third term. Is it true? He said who told you, I said it didn’t really matter who told me? I said it was a question of whether it was true, he said it was not true and I said thank God. And I said Baba, if not I would have said maybe you don’t know God. I said God made it possible for you to be president for eight years and I said this is a presidency you were not qualified for. He said, “not qualified? Am I not a Nigerian or I am not of age? I said “no, Baba, that is not it, you know that in a civilian regime, presidency is meant for politicians and you are not a politician, they came to call you. I said there was a time you asked me what was Yar’Adua looking for in government, what did he forget in government house? Secondly, with presidential system, before you start election, you must have tons and tons of your own money. You just came out of prison, you had no money. I know that. I said “I’m sorry Baba, people say that charity begins at home, you could not meet Obasanjo’s relations in Abeokuta, and with all those minuses, God said you are the president for eight years, let God be the one who will decide who will be the next president.” He said “thank you very much, I appreciate.

 

You didn’t study his countenance?

I have said what I wanted to say. Yoruba people say if you and your friends come out a discussion and you are both all smiles, then it means the discussion was not frank. He knows I told him the truth and I am convinced I told him the truth. At the end of it, he also said he didn’t even ask for third term which is not true. He did. So, when I got home in the evening, Ogun State governor, Gbenga Daniel called and said Governor General, you came to Ota, I said yes, that I came discuss with Baba. He said “what did you discuss with him? I said I discussed third term. He said “oh my God, you have pinched Baba on his sore, Baba said he will turn you to nobody.” I said if God allows him. So, that was sin for the impeachment. He said “okay, we are going to have Council of State meeting in Abuja, please come early so that we can discuss and I can give you more details.” So, I went and he gave me all the details and asked me to go and apologise to Baba and I said I would go in the evening. But when I went in the evening, Fashawe was there, Baba didn’t allow me to talk. He said “I have told you Rashidi, I will turn you to nobody.” He was going and Fashawe was running after him, trying to tell him he shouldn’t have said that and I answered him, “if God permits you sir.” So, that was the case of impeachment. There were pressure, but you see, it would not have mattered so much if I did not lose some of my staff. We went to Abuja for something, we were coming and we had an accident on the way. That dampened my spirit. Two brilliant young men with wives and children died. Those are the ones that were my political staff, about three or four others that were civil servants also died. And when the thing got to that level, people and other governors that came said we should go and beg Baba. So, we went on January 10, 2006 which happened to be Ileya day, after slaughtering my ram, we decided to meet in Abeokuta. We went and we didn’t take [Ayo] Fayose along because he was Baba’s son. Dr Segun Agagu, Prince Olagunsoye Oyinlola, Daniel and I went to him. They knelt down, so I had to kneel down too. Oyinlola is a very good orator. He presented a very brilliant case, Agagu supported him, Daniel and I didn’t talk that. He now said “well, Rashidi, go and resign.” I said I would not resign. He said why and I asked why should I resign? Then he said “if you don’t resign, you will be removed.” I said “nobody can do it.” He said why and I said because “you cannot get two-thirds [of the House of Assembly members] and he said “two-thirds my foot” and got up and Daniel ran after him. So, the three of us sat down and were talking, then Bola Ajibola came in and said “what is wrong with you people, you are leaders in your own right. It is not every time you will run away from fight.” He said “I have gone to see Segun [Obasanjo] to plead that he should leave you in peace because you have not done anything wrong. That in fact, everybody is praising your government,” that he also knew that they were praising my government that my education policy was good and I was not corrupt. So, after that Baba came to Ibadan to see Paba Emmanuel Alayande on his birthday. I went with him and Pa Alayande also pleaded with him, but before 7 0’clock on the following day, I was called that the people were coming with police escort to come and do the impeachment and though when we got the notice, we had already gone to court. We told the Chief Judge then that these people don’t have the mandatory two-thirds, as 14 members of the house of assembly that were not part of them wrote to say they were not part of them. They were only 32 and 18 cannot be two-thirds of 32. Then, they now said they suspended some of them. That is the story of impeachment. Many Senior Advocates of Nigeria that looked at the impeachment said I had a good case and by the grace of God, we won.

 

You fought to install the current governor, but since after the election was won, it looks like you’ve distanced yourself from the governor and the government.

No, I have not distanced myself

 

What is your level of participation in this government if you have not distanced yourself?

I told you when Ishola was elected, I told him he was the one elected. If you don’t call me, I don’t need to come and put my nose into your matter. When he needs advice, he comes. He was here for two hours  yesterday. When he needs advice, he can come. I have not been in Government House or Governor’s Office since 2007 when I left the place. I have not been in secretariat since then. What am I going to do there now? There have been three governments in place since then. He is my son. It’s not me, he is in charge now. When you grow old, there is a time when your father will not even call you by name again. My father was calling me Alhaji, later on I became senator, now I became governor. He would call as asked “Governor, where are you? Can you come and see me? That’s how it should be, so he is in charge.

God has a way of doing things. My objective was to dislodge APC government, particularly when I know that my brother, Isiaka Ajimobi did not build a government that I could be proud of. He had to go, if he had to install somebody, it means his regime will go on. Even if the person wants to make a change, it may, not be possible to make the change. God made it possible for us to say, “look, if this coalition will make it possible for us to send Ajimobi away. My primary objective was not to rule Oyo State, it was to say the state should gave another government

 

Are you proud of Seyi Makinde so far?

Of course, yes. I am. But you have to understand one thing, Seyi is coming from another background and he has not even settled down. Please let us give him chance to settle down. He has just made his commissioners and we have to understand that when you are looking for something, particularly when you want to be governor, you must have made a lot of commitments also on the way. When he was making his commitments, maybe he didn’t think there would be any coalition, now he is trying to find a way of balancing it.

 

ZLP members are bellyaching that they don’t have an appointment so far.

They have not complained to me yet over appointments. ZLP told me I should not interfere; I should let them fight their battle.

 

The word ‘battle’ means there is a problem

I am and should be father of everybody. I said Seyi was here yesterday night. We talked about how everything was going on and he assured me that he has not forgotten the pledges he made.

 

There was an agreement prior to the election with all these coalition partners.

Yesterday, we talked about it and he said I asked the SAN to prepare the agreement for all of them to sign but you discarded it, I said that’s true. He said you asked him not to send it again, why? I said because when I asked the lawyers that are there, they said it is not enforceable, so why do we have to crack our head. Bolaji Ayorinde said it was not enforceable, Femi Lanlehin said it was not enforceable, Sarafadeen Alli, all said same thing. These are the three lawyers, new generation, old generation. They all said it was not enforceable. So, why do you want to waste your time, that is why there was no signed agreement. But there was understanding between them and he said he has not forgotten about it.

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A    Great Marriage is borne out of serving each other with undying love every moment. This must be unconditional love of service to each other. This is what a healthy marriage requires: you must discipline yourself to fall in love with your spouse over and over again, devoid of compulsion.

The choice to keep falling in love is less about romantic feelings and more about routine actions. That is, something you do consistently without any special reason. You don’t choose to love your spouse for a special reason. Rather, you love your spouse just like that. That’s what love is: unconditionally.

True love is sacrificial, and if you want to become a better lover, you’ll discipline yourself to serve your spouse daily, which is the ultimate sacrifice and your reasonable responsibility. It means laying down our lives for someone else.

Serving is your choice: you choose to be a servant lover. Thus, you look for ways to serve your spouse through simple, consistent, ordinary acts of kindness, without compulsion, and for no special reason or payback; instead, you serve as an expression of your love for your spouse. You can fall in love every day and express that love in practical acts of service. This is part of what the popular love keys in marriage is all about.

Let me further explain this with this scene of a married couple: A wife asked the husband to explain why he stopped buying her gifts and expensive jewelry after they got married. The husband’s response was “Have you seen a fisherman give worms to the fish after catching it?”. This husband’s response is against the principles of a successful marriage. This attitude will only put a marriage in jeopardy. We must avoid it like a plague.

A great marriage requires consistent love that is expressed in daily routine acts of kindness and support for each other.

We should not pause or abandon actions of love we engaged in during courtship, now that we are married. Or were those actions actually baits for us to get ourselves, just like the fisherman’s act of baiting fishes, alluded to earlier in this write-up? The right answer is absolute no!

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S3x, the most important activity in marriage https://tribuneonlineng.com/s3x-the-most-important-activity-in-marriage/ Sat, 14 Sep 2019 13:14:43 +0000 https://tribuneonlineng.com/?p=245024 Tribune Online
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S3x makes the difference in marriage. It is like water to humanity; no one can do without it. That is why it is often mentioned as one of the reasons a person should get married. Marriage without S3x is an aberration. Such a marriage is bound to head for the rock. In fact, great shall […]

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S3x makes the difference in marriage. It is like water to humanity; no one can do without it. That is why it is often mentioned as one of the reasons a person should get married. Marriage without S3x is an aberration. Such a marriage is bound to head for the rock. In fact, great shall be the crash. That is why every marriage or relationship columns in the newspapers, and programmes on the radio and television give priority attention to S3x matters. S3x is the unseen enemy in marriage and the silent thief of marital joy, when not properly handled by couples. That is why we have to talk about it always.

I hope this write up will satisfy the curiosity of those who feel that the issue of S3x in marriage is being blown out of proportion. As such people often say, S3x, S3x, S3x, is marriage all about S3x? of course, there are other issues of marriage, but the most important of all marital issues is S3x. That is why it must be properly handled if the marriage will be preserved. Why S3x is the most important of all marital issues:

  • The bedrock of every reason people give in the court of law for divorce is poor S3x.
  • No matter what the problem is between couples, as long as they still enjoy good S3x with one another, it can easily be over-looked.
  • The quality of S3x and what it represents play a major role in the quality of every marriage: poor S3x will always result in weak marriage and vice versa.
  • So, every couple must recognize and appreciate the importance of great S3x life to their union and achieving it must become their mutual goal.
  • S3xual fulfilment is only achieved when a man is able to take his wife to orgasm – the pinnacle of S3xual satisfaction.

To achieve great S3x life in marriage, couples must note the following:

  • Great S3x life between a couple does not come just because they love themselves.
  • Men, especially need to know that their years of experience and number of women they have had it with does not guarantee that their wife is S3xually fulfilled.
  • Nothing good comes easy; nobody becomes an expert at anything without having to learn, even satisfying your spouse.
  • Couples must work on improving their skills of lovemaking.
  • A couple that will enjoy a great S3x life must recognise the difference in the body mechanism of man and woman, and seek how to use it to their advantage.
  • S3x for a man is an any day and any time thing, but for her, a good S3x requires a good time of preparation. A womans response to S3x is slow and gradual but that of a man is quick and spontaneous.
  • Mans S3xual need is physically based. His gonads are continually producing sperm, which are stored in the seminal vesicles along with seminal fluid. When the seminal vesicles are full, there is a physical push for release. And this is done through S3x.
  • A woman tends to be more rooted in her emotion and desire to feel loved. If she feels love, she wants to make love with the husband who loves her. Once she does not feel love, she has no interest in S3x.
  • S3x becomes better as we get more intimate with our spouses.

S3x is in effect, an all rounder in marriage: you quarrel over S3x , and settle quarrels with S3x. Couples must therefore give serious attention to their S3x life to ensure S3xual fulfillment. Anything short of S3xual fulfillment in marriage endangers the marriage, and makes it unattractive to the younger generation.

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22 qualities of a good husband https://tribuneonlineng.com/22-qualities-of-a-good-husband-2/ Sat, 07 Sep 2019 02:10:36 +0000 https://tribuneonlineng.com/?p=242453 Tribune Online
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continues from last week   I got this article on my WhatsApp group and I know it will bless your marriage. Please enjoy it. If you desire to be the husband every woman would love to have, here are 22 qualities of a good husband. Take note and be the one.   Give peace He […]

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continues from last week

 

I got this article on my WhatsApp group and I know it will bless your marriage. Please enjoy it.

If you desire to be the husband every woman would love to have, here are 22 qualities of a good husband. Take note and be the one.

 

  1. Give peace

He should be a peace maker, knowing how to calm tense moments and avoid drama

 

  1. Create humour

He should know how to be her clown, how to make her smile, how to make her remember him when he is far from her and find herself smiling all by herself

 

  1. Protect

This world can be tough for a woman; his mother, his sister, his friends, her friends, her boss, strangers might attack her. He should have the ability to keep her safe and make her feel she has an ally.

 

  1. Serve

He should put his ego aside and attend to his wife and family even without being asked, anticipating their needs, being there as her hero. To lead is to serve.

 

  1. Defend her from himself

A man can become his wife’s worst enemy, the pain he can cause her if he chooses to harm her physically, emotionally, sexually or financially is too great. He should make sure he doesn’t be her worst mistake

 

  1. Inspire

His words carry so much weight. Words of appreciation and encouragement are enough to keep her going, he should keep refueling and recharging her.

 

  1. Help and support

He should care about her dreams and life goals and be her purpose partner, helping her be the best version of herself. He should ease her load and help out at home. They are a team

 

  1. Give stability and security

He should make sure that he is consistent, being her constant, a steady hand. When a woman is given clarity, she lets down her guard and releases her love

  1. Touch

He should understand how sensitive a woman’s skin is and how it loves to be touched. He should learn the non-verbal communication of touch, how to rub her back, hold her waist, stroke her skin and cuddle up with her

 

  1. Ability to need his wife

He should also have the ability to be vulnerable, to need his wife, to allow her to do the above things to him, to be there for him, to trust her with his issues and to give her room to love him. Women love being of value.

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