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I needed to use the scissors this morning and as I finished with it, I looked at it carefully and I saw that the scissors models an ideal couple. Let’s see some lessons every couple should learn from the scissors so that we can become better couples and build enviable homes.
The scissors is always in pairs and that’s where its usefulness is. Once you see one part and the other part is not there, it is useless no matter how beautiful it is.
The effectiveness of every marriage is lost when couples are not together. Separation and divorce destroy the effectiveness and usefulness of every marriage. Remember, “united we stand, divided we fall.” Separation is not only when you separate physically and you are no longer living together. There are many couples who are together under the same roof but are spiritually, emotionally, sexually, financially, socially, etc separated. Are you sure you and your spouse are not separated in one of these ways?
The togetherness of a pair of scissors is not automatic. There is a small bolt or pin that fixes the scissors together in the middle. In the same vein, if couples must be bound together like this scissors, there must be ‘bolts’ that must fix and weld them together that will make them inseparable. Some of the ‘bolts’ are:
- The presence of God
- Openness and trust
- Healthy and joyful sex life
- Family vision
- Good family finance
- Hot family altar, etc.
I tried separating this scissors this morning, but the pin was so deep into it that it was not easy for me to separate them.
The scissors is useless except someone holds it. Couples can’t be effective except they allow God to hold them and use them to achieve their marital destiny. No family is really useless. It is either you are positively useful or negatively useful. To be positively useful occurs when it is God holding the two of you. You will be negatively useful when it is the devil holding the two of you. The devil can hold the two of you and use you to destroy each other and destroy the future of your children and even destroy your eternity. Ask yourself as couples: who is holding us and holding our family?
Each pair of the scissors has a sharp part and a dull part. The face is sharp while the back is dull. In the same vein, each couple has his/ her area of strengths and weaknesses. Your spouse is not empty. Though you might see the ‘dull part’ of your spouse, but if you want your marriage to accomplish its purpose, you must recognise the ‘sharp part’ of your spouse. You also must display your ‘sharp part’ (strengths). Don’t just display your ‘dull part’. That destroys marriage fast!
Synergy in working: The pairs must come together before it can cut whatever you want to use it to cut. Each pair will bring its sharpness and join it with the sharpness of the other and cutting will be done easily and smoothly. In like manner, synergy is the energy of any family. All this my money, my car, my own, my thing, me, mine, myself syndromes will sap away the energy of your marriage.
Synergise your resources, money, connection, visions as couples, so as to give energy to your marriage to advance it to the next level. ‘I’ness is the mother of illness in marriage while ‘WE’ness is the mother of wellness of every marriage.
Do you want energy in your marriage? Then go for synergy. Only ‘scissors couples’ are serious couples. Make the joy of your family a priority. God will uphold our homes.
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